Monster Mommy Moment

I have a lot of times that I could tell you about in which I screwed up as a mom. I scream, I overreact, I spank, I draw conclusions that  aren’t accurate, I use poor judgement…I could go on and on. But I don’t have to because I know you all know what I’m talking about. I call them Mom Fails.

Let me tell you about my latest mom fail.

A couple of weeks ago on Tuesday, the kids up got about around 7:00. Everybody was happy. We came downstairs, got everybody their morning milk, and changed diapers (except Tater who’s a big boy now). After milk, the kids all started playing. Tater usually pushes the girls around and at least a hundred times a day I say “Tater! Keep your hands off your sisters” or “Tater! Quit pushing your sisters”.

This morning though, they were all having a good time and playing together (somewhat) peacefully. So I hopped on the couch with my laptop to check some emails. I’m emailing away when I look up to see Tater pushing Ms. M square in the middle of the back. I can’t stop it. She falls forward. Her face hits the wall, the baseboard and then the tile floor. She gets up, and I’ve already lost it and I’m screaming at Tater as I am getting up to pick up Ms. M.

She’s crying one of those cries where nothing is coming out. All of the sudden, she wails. And as the scream is tearing through the entire neighborhood, the blood starts pouring out of her mouth.

I don’t do blood people. But I kicked into mom mode and dealt with it. I couldn’t get it to stop bleeding. The entire time, I’m holding her and trying to get the blood to stop and screaming horrible things at Tater like “Get out of here I don’t want to look at you right now” and “You hurt your sister so I’m gonna hurt you” and “Don’t talk to me”. Awesome huh? So cool under pressure.

Long story short, we took her to the doctor who told us she chipped her top 2 teeth and was probably going to need to get stitches…IN HER TONGUE. She wouldn’t hold still long enough for him to see the wound, so he decided we’d wait a day in see what happened. Thankfully, she didn’t need the stitches. After two days of miserable hell (she couldn’t suck on her bottle or sippy cup and eating hurt), she was fine.

But how I reacted? Major mom fail.

Now, I know I’m not the only one that has more mom fails stories than we can count. I know that screwing up is part of the gig. But I want other moms (new moms, expecting moms, moms in different stages of motherhood) to be able to learn and grow from other moms’ experiences.

Mom fails seem bad when they happen, but you know what? We learn from them.

Which is why I present to you:

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Monster Mommy Moments

I’m going to start hosting a feature called Monster Mommy Moments every Monday. One of the reasons I decided to do this is so that you have a chance to meet some amazing women – some you might already know and some might be new to you – who are all willing to share stories that put them in a less than perfect light so that we can all learn and grow…together.

Monday, you’ll meet the first mom who was brave enough to step up to the plate and share her story. Sometimes other moms judge how we handle a situation or the decisions we make and conclude that we fail as a mom. It’s important to remember we need to choose our own path, whatever it may be, and whatever works best for us. Our first mom is going to share a story about that.

And so it goes…

Comments

  1. Making It Work Mom says:
    Sounds great! I have so many mom fail moments at this point that they are all kind of mushed together!
  2. I love the badge! Too cute! Can't wait to see what you have on tap!
  3. NanaDiana says:
    What a great idea, Natalie- I think there are so many women that feel so guilty when they have a Mom Moment Fail that they are too ashamed to even admit it...maybe some of them will see that they are pretty darned normal, after all. I had many of those moments when my kids were growing up ... and look how they turned out...wait...never mind..NOT a good analogy! lol Hugs- Diana
  4. Allyson & Jere says:
    Yeah, this makes me feel SO MUCH BETTER knowing that I'm not the only one who screams ridiculous things at their kids. I'm glad you're doing this.

    Being a Mom is HARD. The end.
  5. Natalie, I don't see them as failures, even though we think those moments could have been handled in a better way. It's our first impulse of over-reaction...maybe that's what gives that rush of adrenaline to handle the situation (blood)rather than running away not knowing what to do? Sometimes we say things we don't mean to the offender (child) that caused the accident...and that probably hurts you even more! What IS important is that you do learn from these moments how to better other situations that crop up (and they will) later. Not learning to deal with them is what leads to the child abuse so many children face. YOU ARE ONE OF THE BEST MOMS I KNOW AND I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS!!!!!! JUST LIKE I LOVE YOU!
  6. Sippy Cup Mom says:
    Natalie, I am positive I would have reacted just like you. I have some definite Mom Fails I will have to share. Great idea!
  7. I would have reacted just like you did, I know it. It doesn't make you a bad mom at all... we're all human and all you can do is learn from it!
    Mom Fails is a great idea! Can't wait to see what everyone comes up with.
  8. Nobody is perfect and those who claim to be are lying and the ones who portray it are really good actors. We have all had moments like those.
  9. Leigh Ann says:
    I can relate all too well! I have the opposite scenario: my twins are almost 3 and my little one is 10 months. Lots of pushing, trying to love too hard, and stealing toys (why do they only want to play with HER toys?). I have too many mom fails to count it seems sometimes!

    Can't wait to see what you have coming up!
  10. The Sweetest says:
    I have plenty of material for you. If I had a penny for every time I over-reacted, well, I'd be rich.
  11. We've all been there.. Me? I yell too much. I only realize how much now that I see my kids reacting to situations exactly the way I do.

    Glad to know Miss M is doing better &didn't need stitches.
  12. you know, my mother was a crazy woman. beat the crap out of me. so I think as long as you love your kids and try your best, you're doing great! most of you moms don't know how awesome you are because you guys are too hard on yourselves.
  13. I'll ask my daughter about those fails. I'm sure there were 1 or 2. Dozen.
    I dont remember any. Probably 'cause I've blocked them.
    Or maybe old-timers.
  14. Dolli-Mama says:
    This is very exciting! I don't know if I will have time tomorrow, but I will be joining this Meme sometime soon!
  15. Love this idea! Wait til you see my post tomorrow(complete with pics)- just got finished writing it. So fits here.
  16. :) I am sure it will be fabu!

    Great idea!
  17. I've had more "Monster Mommy" moments than I care to remember ... and I LOVE that you are doing this! Thanks for helping all of us realize that we are not alone.

    You're the coolest!
  18. Love the idea ~ Good luck to you and the brave mamas who share...

    We are not in this alone.
  19. MommaKiss says:
    Dude.
    I NEVER have Mom Fails.

    I never lie, either.
  20. I can't wait to read these, I know I have plenty to contribute...great idea!!
  21. LOVE this feature idea. :)
  22. Dysfunctional Mom says:
    I love this. It's stuff like this that makes me wish I'd had the internet when my kids were little; not because I don't still have mommy fails (daily!) but because back then I felt so isolated and as if I were the worst mother on earth. Now I now I'm not the only who fails!
  23. You have no IDEA how much this post means to me! Your #momfail doesn't make me feel better, but knowing that I'm not ALONE, now that makes me feel so much better, it is like a weight has been lifted off my chest, because I have moments that I lose it. I can't wait to see what you have coming up, Natalie, this is AWESOME :p
  24. Loved this Natalie - and the mom fail idea is brilliant! Solidarity in imperfection. And the Tater story? Who WOULDN'T react in the same way? I have a daily - or every other day if I'm lucky - mom fail. Sigh.

    As I've learned to say to myself: smell the flower, blow out the candle.
  25. I really like this idea and it's so needed in our society of mothers who tend to hide our mistakes. If we were all a little more real, I'll bet this motherhood stuff would be just a little bit easier!
  26. Great idea! And love the badge.

    Though I think "The Business" would've been a more apt picture :-P
  27. I have said similar things to Maya - I'm not going to talk to you for an hour because you are ignoring my question. Nice, right? But in the heat of the moment things get said and all you can do is thank God you didn't say something worse or even hit them!

    I really reach for the stars, don't I??
  28. luckydame says:
    I fail daily as a Mom and I beat myself up over it all the time. Yay for Catholic Guilt.

    Great feature and glad to know I'm not the only craptacular mother.
  29. What a great idea! Can't wait to read these. Adorable badge.
    One of the hardest things about being a mom (in my opinion) is those fails. Especially when you don't see anyone else doing it. How great to put this out there so we can all benefit from knowing we're not alone.
  30. Okay assuming for a moment that I could keep myself in check and not yell at my kid, what would have been the "right" way to react in that situation? I can't think of a "right" way to handle it...permanent mom fail? Make me a badge for that!
  31. So glad Ms. M is okay.

    I can understand why you reacted the way you did.

    And as far as Mommy Monster Moments, you are NOT alone, sign me up! I've had a million!

    Cute button. Look forward to reading these....
  32. Not Just Another Jennifer says:
    BTW, I love that you started this! My list of mom fails feels epic, but hearing others share similar stories helps the guilt. :)
  33. I have had moments like that ... omg, potty training my oldest. MAJOR FAIL on my part. Live and learn, right?
  34. Organic Motherhood with Cool Whip says:
    LOVE this idea because although it's embarassing, WE ALL have these moments. No one is perfect and it is especially hard to handle problems like when our kids hurt each other. Even if they do it accidentally while teasing. It is so hard not to lose your sh#t. I'm glad Ms. M is okay now. Nino bit through his tongue when he was 9 months old. I thought I might pass out from all the blood. It was like a horror scene in a movie.
  35. I think I just found my blog soulmate!LOL. I have 3 (with 3 in heaven) and we just found out the 4th is on the way. This story sounds SOOO familiar. Plus I homeschool, and Daddy is active duty. Life here gets pretty exciting. We have full family Monster Moments (sissy 1, sissy 2, little guy, Mommy, and Daddy). Entertainemnt at it's best! i just remind myself I turned out ok, thus my kids will too (hopefully...LOL). God Bless, Suzi
  36. ive been having A LOT of monster mommy moments recently and I feel horrible! Thank you so much for sharing this! Makes me feel a little more normal... now just to learn from it
  37. Oh I have a monster mommy moment going up tomorrow! Be sure to come by and check it out. :)
  38. m&cmama says:
    I love this idea. I think things like this reassure us moms that we are good moms and yes we do makes mistakes but we learn from them and we are not alone.

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