You know, one of my favorite things to do as a blogger is to welcome my friends over to guest post – and today, I have a real-life friend here to tell you about her Monster Mommy Moment…Cheryl from Mommmypants!
No idea what a Monster Mommy Moment is? You can read all about how my weekly feature came to be here.
Cheryl and I tweet, Skype, email…but not nearly often enough (life tends to get in the way!). I was honored to guest post at her place a few months back when I shared my struggles with post partum depression. I also had the chance to meet her in real life…and we immediately clicked like we’d been friends for years.
In short, Cheryl is my kind of people. And did I mention she’s an amazing writer? Like, I-can’t-think-of-anything-other-to-say-but-wow kind of writer? And because she rocks the writing, she is one of the hosts of my the red dress club…where I first got my feet wet in fiction and instantly fell in love with writing.
So grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy Cheryl’s Monster Mommy Moment!
Not in the, “If he doesn’t stop talking/bickering with his sister/whining” way.
My eldest son, Sawyer, was not quite two at the time. My daughter was an infant. We went to our next-door neighbor’s house for a holiday dessert party. There were tables set up in the garage, loaded with cookies and brownies and fudge.
Sawyer asked for a piece of fudge.
I wasn’t sure it was safe for him. We knew through allergy testing when he was 10 months old that he was allergic to peanuts.
And so I gave him a sugar cookie instead.
He was running up and down the short driveway, having a fantastic time.
Until he vomited. And the neighbors all thought it was from eating sweets and racing around.
But then he broke out in hives.
He became completely congested.
That’s when I realized I’d actually given him a peanut butter cookie.
The one who read every single label on everything before he ate it. The one who asked mothers of kids at the park who were eating peanut butter sandwiches on the equipment to please stop.
The one who is supposed to always, always protect him.
We were incredibly lucky: my husband got him to the hospital and they kept him overnight just in case, but he responded to medication and he was fine.
Five years later, it is still the single worst Mommy Moment of my life.
If you know a peanut allergic child, if that child comes to your house or is invited to your own kid’s party, it might be an inconvenience to make sure it is safe for that child.
But do it.
Because believe me – you do NOT want to have a Mommy Moment like that – even if the child isn’t yours.
Cheryl, thank you for sharing this terrifying, heartbreaking moment with us. Knowing that we aren’t alone or the only moms to ever do something like this is exactly why we share our Monster Mommy Moments. So many of us don’t have to deal with our children having serious allergic reactions that we don’t even think about the effect our actions could have on another child.
And now you all see why I I’m such a fan of Cheryl’s. She’s honest, and not afraid to experiences that some parents are too embarrassed or ashamed to admit to. She’s not afraid to put herself out there in a less-than-perfect light – and that’s why I am so glad that she has shared one of her Monster Mommy Moments with us.
Thank you my friend, for reminding us that we are all sharing the same experiences, that we’re all in this together and that we can learn from each other’s mistakes experiences.
Now go swing by Mommmypants and say hello to Cheryl, and if you’re new there make sure to tell her that I sent you. I know you’ll really enjoy her blog!