Mommy Moment – Wendy Style

Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be. Today, I am excited to welcome Wendy from wendy will blog!

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Wendy is a mom to a sweet (and very pretty!) four year old girl, she’s also a blogger, Twitter fanatic and breast cancer survivor. I have also met Wendy a couple of times in person and she is sweet, genuine and very easy to talk to. If you don’t already know her, you’re gonna love her.

So go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!

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It was well past her bedtime at a recent family celebration.  My daughter – fueled by chocolate cake and ice cream – squealed in delight as her Uncle chased after her around our living room.  Giggles and full belly laughs made the evening feel even more festive until she shouted – with hands on hips, mind you – “Watch out before I punch you out!”  My husband and I exchanged wide eyes as the rest of there room erupted in laughter.  She’s the only grandchild, so I’m sure you can imagine the kind of attention she’s used to getting.  And at that moment?  She was reveling in the response from the family.

I tend to forget that my little girl is only four years old.  She should be making mud pies, painting on butcher paper, or tending to her baby dolls.  She should be outside riding her bike with the neighbor kids.  She should be hanging from monkey bars and turning cartwheels.  Instead, she’s often saddled up on the couch consumed by a television show geared for 7 and 8 year olds.  Hence, the sassy threat of violence toward her Uncle who only dotes on her.

And it’s totally my fault.

I’m guilty of getting caught up in my own agenda and pursing my own hobbies and dreams and some days a preschooler doesn’t fit into that equation.  Don’t get me wrong…I love my child.  Love.  But sometimes this mommy just wants an hour or two to peruse the internet, write something, make a phone call to a friend – whatever.  And my solution?  The idiot box.

It used to just be the usual fare of Dora, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, and Clifford.  Somehow though that turned into a slew of age-inappropriate programming.  I’m pretty sure it comes from my intolerance of cartoons.  In my defense, it’s not like she’s watching “Jersey Shore.”  I mean, after her infamous plead of “no more guidos” I didn’t have any other choice than to find something tamer.  Regardless, the tween shows are full of mouthy backtalk and I am witness to its influence on my kid.

Can I stop this runaway train and do I really even want to?  You tell me what is worse: a sassy four year old or a frazzled 37 year old at her wits end?

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And there you have it. The exact reason that I’ve cut WAY BACK on blogging and social media. Too much time on the computer for me means way too much time watching TV for them. I really need to start being more active in my real life away from the computer! It’s been a hard adjustment to make, but after something similar happening here, I decided I needed to do it.

I can wait to hear what others have to say about this!

We all take on so much as moms – it’s a tough gig! There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.

Now head over to wendy will blog and say hello to Wendy. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find her there, and on Facebook and Pinterest, too! And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!

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Comments

  1. My almost four year old is constantly asking to play the XBox, but he wants to play completely innapropriate games that my husband plays. I have to make the concious effort to get him outside and that means less time online for me. But in all honesty, if all Im doing is sitting in front of the computer--I have nothing to blog about. Thanks for the reminder that I need to step away from it all sometimes. Jessica recently posted..WishesMy Profile
    • I feel better knowing I'm not the only one struggling with this issue. Beyond the TV, I feel sometimes I'm guilty pushing my four year old into becoming older than she is and it's all for my own selfish reasons. A perfect example...when I want a pedicure, guess who else gets one. wendy recently posted..Marina Auto Body | Premier Collision RepairMy Profile
  2. Hi Wendy! So glad to see you here! You're on my list for my 3 day walk in July, BTW! I was just writing about my day with my 4 year old. It was to be MY day and the kid was going to be in a drug induced stupor (not by MY hand people!). I was going to write and surf and do ME stuff. But she wasn't, she was 4 and active. And I swallowed my will and followed hers. And feel so much better for it. But the times I've let her sit in front of the boob tube...too many to count. TOO MANY!
  3. We're all guilty of that too. Especially this one <---. I LOVE taking the chance to write and do me stuff, but I find that I feel TERRIBLE when he's cracked out in front of the TV, or sitting next to me BEGGING me to play with him. So I've cut back too, tried to keep it to when he's in school or napping and I'm really trying to schedule posts, so I'm not always on the computer... You're a great mom and she's a doll. Drew wants to meet her btw :-) Ashley @ It's Fitting recently posted..Wordless Wednesday : How to Be ManlyMy Profile
  4. i've written about this recently - that I need to stop recording and capturing my life and resume living it. the preschool age is especially hard. my kids are past that age, but the downside is that they remember and catalog every infraction I make on the time I should be spending with them that I'm doing something else instead. are there days that they watch too much TV or play too many video games? absolutely. But I try to overlook the immediate parent fail and look big picture, too. In the grand scheme they aren't overmedia-ized so a day of giving into that here and there is okay. Again, easier when kids are in elementary school and have a full schedule to moderate this than when they're in preschool. I guess my point is...don't be too hard on yourself. In the long run, once she gets in school it will all likely balance out :) And her sassy? is more likely due to her personality and being a 4 year old girl than any TV she is watching....from a mom of a very sassy 7 year old who was once 4 :) gigi recently posted..The Silent and Unnamed (but well-dressed) EnemyMy Profile

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