Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
Today, I’m so excited to welcome Jessica from My Time As Mom! Jessica is mom to two beautiful “insane” (her word, not mine!) little girls, is one of the masterminds behind Vlog Talk AND is one of the mixologists at one of my fave sites: One Martini at a time . I love her honesty and her sarcasm. And I got to see her again at Blissdom (we first met at BlogHer 11) and we had a blast!
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
The Monster Came Out Behind The Dresser
There is always a battle in my house regarding my oldest daughter’s bedroom. Her standards of clean are far different from what my husband and I think are clean.
Daily we have to remind her to make her bed, put away her laundry, and to pick up the junk.
However, I’ve never really pushed her to keep up on her room because in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t harm any of us to have her room unkempt. It’s just an eyesore and I’m kind of a whatever parent.
But…one day, she lost her beloved iPod and asked me to help her find it. Naturally I told her to clean her room before I would help her.
Five minutes later she informs me the room is clean and the iPod is still missing.
I enter her room ready to start mission find the lost device. The carpet was visible and the bed was made so the room appeared to be picked up.
The first place I looked was under her bed. Only thing I found was a pair of boots.
Next, I looked behind her bookshelf because small iPods can easily fall behind furniture. To my surprise, I found pens, hair clips, books, and more in the small gap between bookshelf and wall.
My search then led me to behind her dresser.
That’s when the mommy monster moment began.
Dozens of white pieces of papers were strewn about behind the dresser along with a clipboard and other miscellaneous pieces of crap. I looked at the papers and they were my daughter’s extra homework worksheets that she is supposed to do everyday after school.
The same worksheets that I had spent a lot of time and money copying for her.
To say I lost it is an understatement.
I flipped out.
Yelling, screaming, pointing to various parts of the room that I was unhappy with (which was pretty much all of it at this point).
Shouting, I told her every part of her room that had to be clean and that when I did find her iPod it was mine until that room was verified clean by me.
Tears burst out of her eyes as my anger unloaded.
I felt guilty as I was exploding but I couldn’t stop.
Finally I was able to close my mouth, get up from the floor and leave the room closing the door behind me.
I found the iPod 30 seconds later and placed it on the charger and took many deep breaths.
After she finished cleaning her room she came to see me.
There were no words exchanged between the two of us for our actions. Instead she got the iPod back and we acted like nothing had happened.
However, I know the event left a scar on both of us.
I just hope her scar is big enough for her to remember not to shove stuff behind her dresser anymore.
Thanks for sharing, Jessica! I have SO been there – when flipping out doesn’t even begin to describe my behavior. And it’s funny that those seem to be the times that there’s just an understanding about what happened between you and your child.
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
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