Mommy Moment – Jessica Style

Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.

Today, I’m so excited to welcome Jessica from My Time As Mom! Jessica is mom to two beautiful “insane” (her word, not mine!) little girls, is one of the masterminds behind Vlog Talk AND is one of the mixologists at one of my fave sites: One Martini at a time . I love her honesty and her sarcasm. And I got to see her again at Blissdom (we first met at BlogHer 11) and we had a blast!

Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!

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The Monster Came Out Behind The Dresser 

There is always a battle in my house regarding my oldest daughter’s bedroom. Her standards of clean are far different from what my husband and I think are clean.

Daily we have to remind her to make her bed, put away her laundry, and to pick up the junk.

However, I’ve never really pushed her to keep up on her room because in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t harm any of us to have her room unkempt. It’s just an eyesore and I’m kind of a whatever parent.

But…one day, she lost her beloved iPod and asked me to help her find it. Naturally I told her to clean her room before I would help her.

Five minutes later she informs me the room is clean and the iPod is still missing.

I enter her room ready to start mission find the lost device. The carpet was visible and the bed was made so the room appeared to be picked up.

The first place I looked was under her bed. Only thing I found was a pair of boots.

Next, I looked behind her bookshelf because small iPods can easily fall behind furniture. To my surprise, I found pens, hair clips, books, and more in the small gap between bookshelf and wall.

My search then led me to behind her dresser.

That’s when the mommy monster moment began.

Dozens of white pieces of papers were strewn about behind the dresser along with a clipboard and other miscellaneous pieces of crap. I looked at the papers and they were my daughter’s extra homework worksheets that she is supposed to do everyday after school.

The same worksheets that I had spent a lot of time and money copying for her.

To say I lost it is an understatement.

I flipped out.

Yelling, screaming, pointing to various parts of the room that I was unhappy with (which was pretty much all of it at this point).

Shouting, I told her every part of her room that had to be clean and that when I did find her iPod it was mine until that room was verified clean by me.

Tears burst out of her eyes as my anger unloaded.

I felt guilty as I was exploding but I couldn’t stop.

Finally I was able to close my mouth, get up from the floor and leave the room closing the door behind me.

I found the iPod 30 seconds later and placed it on the charger and took many deep breaths.

After she finished cleaning her room she came to see me.

There were no words exchanged between the two of us for our actions. Instead she got the iPod back and we acted like nothing had happened.

However, I know the event left a scar on both of us.

I just hope her scar is big enough for her to remember not to shove stuff behind her dresser anymore.
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Thanks for sharing, Jessica! I have SO been there – when flipping out doesn’t even begin to describe my behavior. And it’s funny that those seem to be the times that there’s just an understanding about what happened between you and your child.

There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.

Now head over to My Time As Mom and say hello to Jessica. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find @mytimeasmom there, and on facebook, too! And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!

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Comments

  1. Mrs. Wonder says:
    I never thought of hiding stuff behind the dresser... ;) Thanks for sharing your Mommy Moment! Mrs. Wonder recently posted..Sorting buttons- a busy toddler activityMy Profile
  2. Thanks for featuring me Natalie! Hopefully my kid will learn to clean her room but I'm not holding my breath. Jessica recently posted..I Have My Monster MomentsMy Profile
  3. Thanks for sharing this Jessica! I know we all have those moments when we lose our cool...but I'm sure Miss FancyPants has forgotten this all by now! :) Natalie recently posted..Oh Weekend, Where Did You Go?My Profile
  4. We've all been there - we're only human, even if we are moms!
  5. I've had many of those moments. Probably more than I should really publicly admit! My son's room is the same way. Usually I let it go because I know in the grand scheme it doesn't really matter. But those other times? I've been known to lose it. Kimberly recently posted..Our Useless TalentMy Profile
  6. I think every mom has a freak out moment. I know I have way more than Id like to admit too, but it happens. B is pretty fabulous at picking his room up because he doesnt like the mess either, but he has many other irritating habits. Jessica recently posted..Pure Bliss BabyMy Profile
  7. I know this feeling. To well. I hate it. Hang in there. Thanks for sharing, Jess! Mama Track recently posted..Second Pregnancy Syndrome RevisitedMy Profile
  8. When things are hidden and JDaniel can't remember where he hid them, I have trouble staying calm. JDaniel4's Mom recently posted..Muffin Tin Monday-Leap Year SnackMy Profile
  9. Good for you - even though it's hard, sometimes you just gotta put your foot down! Kristy @PampersandPinot recently posted..TaggedMy Profile
  10. I too hate the feeling of losing it. But I have to say, there is a silver lining. In addition to the reminder about doing her homework and keeping track of her stuff, she learned that sometimes people who love each other fight, and can be OK afterwards. It builds resilience, and our kids need that. Besides, if our kids grew to a certain age with the expectation that we never yell, they're sure gonna be surprised when they're teenagers, right? Thanks Jessica for sharing your moment. And thanks Natalie for hosting such an awesome woman. I really enjoyed meeting both of you!
  11. BTDT, as they say. We all have moments like this and I'm guessing she won't be hiding those sheets behind her dresser anymore! But I know, it makes us (mommies) feel bad after we've gotten so angry with them.... hugs Momma!
  12. Ugh - Yah, I do this kind of stuff all the time. I always go from 0 to 60 in a split second. I'm still surprised about the beginning of this story that Hayley ever let the iPod out of her sight! ;) Elena recently posted..While You Were Getting Your Bliss On…My Profile
  13. Ohhh I can so relate to this monster moment with my teenage son! Thanks for sharing xo Cass recently posted..Feeling the need to remind myself...My Profile
  14. Oh how I long to me one of those moms who can keep their cool and snap their kids into shape with just a look. But I'm sorry to say that in order for my kids to keep their room clean, I may be expected to become a little neater myself. :) Leigh Ann recently posted..Things I learned this weekendMy Profile
  15. Aw, Jess, I've had many flip-outs that I regret now. I hope they don't leave the permanent scars. Thanks for sharing and letting us know we aren't alone. xo Runnermom-jen recently posted..I'm Still Here...My Profile
  16. I have lost it and then felt terrible about it, so I understand. I'm glad you were able to silently make up over the Apple product :) angela recently posted..Working Through Grief – Reviewing The Rules of InheritanceMy Profile
  17. I know this moment- even though I don't have kids. I have awe inspiring patience.... until... And then? Holy Jesus. Sometimes my poor dogs get the wrath and George looks at my like he's going to Baker Act my ass. :-/ Jen Has A Pen recently posted..CommitmentMy Profile
  18. This is my future, I can see it now. Sigh. I hope H has learned her lesson!
  19. Oh, I hate the messy crap you find behind the furniture! And if it's something that should have been dealt with? I get all grumpy-pants... Jessica, to have met you in person I just know you are a sweetheart. I am happy to learn you are also human! xoxo
  20. I tried hiding a piece of cheese I didn't want to eat from my dad.... under my plate. I wasn't a very bright five year old.
  21. Once during a screaming rant I told my oldest to act his age. He's five. Maybe I should have acted mine. Jamie recently posted..easy peasy please — link-up!My Profile
  22. I would have lost it too..completely! And I see nothing wrong with that, sometimes moms snap, and then kids know that they've gone too far. In my opinion it's as simple as that.. I can tell you stories..my daughter is the queen of stuffing things somewhere and then tell me with a straight face, that she's finished cleaning. Mirjam recently posted..TraditionsMy Profile
  23. I've so been there, Jess. Those breaths? Are what save me (every time). You already know this, but I love your heartfelt posts, because I know for sure, that your heart is lovely. xo Galit Breen recently posted..EasyMy Profile
  24. I've been there so I totally hear ya! Glad you didn't lose the iPod though. Melissa {momcomm} recently posted..All the Details about Momcomm’s New Content Planning CourseMy Profile
  25. I have yet to have that moment, but I'm sure I'll have one soon. Terrible twos, here we come... Eve recently posted..Happy Birthday to My DadMy Profile
  26. Yep... I, too have lost my cool over a certain little boy's messy room. You are NOT alone. Thanks for sharing. Tonya recently posted..Dear MomMy Profile
  27. and i scream with an accent - so much worse ;) By Word of Mouth Musings recently posted..Wordless Wednesday – Bliss!My Profile
  28. I think I would have acted the same and felt much the same afterwards too. Specially since paper should be recycled! Stasha recently posted..Something is fishyMy Profile
  29. I read once that "some particularly intelligent little girls will always be messy." In a couple of years, you will both wish for the days when you were going to the mat about fake room cleaning.