That’s right! It’s time for another Mommy Moment at the Monster! If you’re not sure what a Mommy Moment at the Monster is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
So let’s welcome Jamie from chosen chaos! Jamie is a mom of four and a great story teller. I recently had the chance to guest post on her blog, and jumped at the chance! So I wanted to return the favor and have her share her words with you here so that you can see just why I like her so much!
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
I can recount the events of this day as if they happened yesterday. It’s been over 2 years now.
Mornings in my house, no matter what I try to do, are never smooth sailing. I’m not a morning person and everyone else IS. So I am usually the sour face running around trying to get everything ready in not enough time. Rush, rush, rush. This particular morning it was five minutes past time to go. Everybody was ready except me. Middle-man kept whining something about his feet or his shoes. He was a fresh one year old so he wasn’t really talking. Just grunts, making a few understandable words, and whining. A lot.
I looked at my husband with a WTF? and he said, he’ll be fine, we’ve got to go. Right. And off we went.
Drop off was normal. I carried him in, got his breakfast ready, big guilty hugs for being so short that morning, AGAIN. And off I went.
Fast forward to pick-up time… his teacher tells me that he’s been kind of grumpy all day. Just not his usual self, she says. I look at him with a fleeting moment of concern. Wondering if it’s teeth, an impending ear infection? She told me he did take a good nap but the rest of the day he was just off. Hmmm. Well, time will tell. And off we went.
The boys and I met family for dinner. Well, others ate dinner while I dealt with middle-man. His teacher was right, he just wasn’t himself. He was way more whiny than normal. Nothing seemed to please him. We rushed through the meal and headed for the car.
Once I had them buckled up for safety I threw my arms in the air and in a monster-ish pleading voice said, what in the world is wrong with you buddy!? He quickly pointed to his shoes.
Monter-ish voice again, your shoes hurt? Still? More nodding, pointing and his mumbled yes mama.
Alright, alright, lets just take them off then.
Shoes off, socks off. I inspect both.
You could hear my heart break from miles around. If not that then you certainly heard the moan that came from deep inside my Mother’s gut.
There, inside the shoes of my baby boy… stuffed all the way down… were socks.
A second pair of socks. Socks from another day. Socks that had been stuffed inside his shoes, crunching his sweet toes. ALL. DAY. LONG.
His toes were visibly red. Crunched. Jammed.
He just looked at me. With those great big beautiful sea-glass green eyes… He cried the whole way home. There was nothing I could say to him to make this better. I just kept repeating over and over again, I’m so sorry buddy. Mommy is so sorry.
And I cried right along with him.
Not because of the socks or because of his poor tiny toes.
I cried for the 10 seconds that morning that I didn’t listen to him! I didn’t stop and try to figure out what was hurting him. Isn’t that my JOB? It would have been such an easy fix. Instead I rushed and shooed him about. Instead I didn’t pay attention.
A moment he will never remember, one that I will never forget.
Thank you for sharing this Jamie, and for being honest about how all too often we don’t listen/care/pay attention to what our kids are actually saying to us. I had a similar thing happen last week and this story hit a little too close to home. It’s a great reminder to slow down and breathe.
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to Jamie’s place chosen chaos and if you are new there, make sure to tell her that I sent you!
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