Mommy Moment – Galit Style

Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be. I am excited to have one of my favorite bloggers/writers here today, Galit from These Little Waves.

Galit is a mom of three, wife, co-founder of a monthly linkup, Memories Captured, and an AMAZING writer. She is involved in all kinds of writing blogs and if you haven’t read her work, you are really missing out!

So go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!

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“Here, mama?” He asks, pointing to the burgundy chair. Its wooden arms and legs are sturdy, strong, well worn. Many children have sat here.

“Yes.” I nod, distracted by my own thoughts and worries and mission.

I turn from him with a blind faith that he will, indeed, sit where he should for as long as I need. One slice of a moment is all it will take. Tiny, important.

Walking up to the counter, I press my palms against my jeans. Even as an adult, a school counter seems so very big, and makes me feel so very small.

The receptionist smiles my way and flips her strawberry hair over one shoulder. Her smile is warm, her eyes are searching.

Parents don’t usually come to school in the middle of the day without notice or reason or, at the very least, an appointment.

I know this, and yet I’m here.

“Hi.” I greet her. My smile is wary and my hello is strained, tinny even.

I know this too, and yet I go on.

“Can I see Kayli for just one minute?” I ask, crossing my fingers against my thigh, silently whispering, “Please don’t ask me why.” And to her credit, she doesn’t.

Smoothing a smile onto her lips with the ease and grace of someone who has heard stranger things from behind that big, tall counter, she calls down to my girl’s classroom.

I stand and wait, noting the quiet hum of the office. Another phone call is made, children deliver blue-inked notes,  a harsh fluorescent light washes over us all.

I murmur my thanks, then turn from the smallness of this space, towards the vastness of the hallway.

My flip flops smack against harsh carpet, each step announcing my arrival.

Sunlight beams through paneled doors landing in slants against the wall, revealing oil pastels in the brightest of colors, and against the floor, revealing my waiting stance.

A single heartbeat later, Kayli’s flip flopped stride comes my way. Her steps are ever-sure, her expression matches the school secretary’s.

“Hi mom?” She asks.

I take in my girl. Her spaghetti strap lays loosely against one shoulder, her pink tinted lip gloss was recently applied.

When I dropped her off that morning, we barely said good bye, having just matched wills and stubbornness and harshness.

I wince into that moment. Were we running late? Was her backpack unpacked? Her homework undone? Her voice too edged? I have no idea what happened, but I do know that I handled whatever it was badly, and that I owe her an apology.

I lean down so we’re eye to eye, chocolate brown meeting light hazel, “I’m so sorry about this morning, Kay.” I whisper.

Without pause, she whispers back, “Thanks Mommy, me too.” She melts into me with her arms and her face and even her tippy toes.

I squeeze her tight, breath her in, then let her go, grateful for tiny, important slices.

She smiles between pink tinged lips, then turns on her own heel, her flip flops marking her own path down that big hallway. I watch her go, my heartstring repaired.

My feet still firmly planted, I glance towards Brody, ready to gather him from that burgundy chair and head home.

That’s when I catch a glimpse of that strawberry hair once more, framing warm eyes, and a smile that mirrors the feeling. The secretary nods my way with her chin and her smile and even her eyes, mother to mother.

She’s seen so many stories unfold from behind that desk, and I’m so very grateful to her for letting me rewrite a slice of mine.

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I should have mentioned you would need tissues! See what I mean about Galit’s writing? I felt like a voyeur watching that moment unfold. Learning to say that I am sorry and admit when I’m wrong to my kids has been a challenge…one that I work on everyday. Galit handled this the way I’m striving to.

We all take on so much as moms – it’s a tough gig! There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.

Now head over to These Little Waves and say hello to Galit. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find her there, and on Facebook and Pinterest too! And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!

Comments

  1. Thanks so very much for having me here today, Nat!

    Love sharing this beautiful space with *you!*
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  2. Simply breathtaking. What a great mom you are for taking that time and letting her know that you had made a mistake and that you were sorry for that. Amazing.
    *heading now to find a tissue*
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  3. Look at you making all other Mothers look bad. Good thing I’m a Daddy or I’d be so mad by now. I’d make you apologies to me too!
    Good Job, Mama!
    m.

    • Galit, I just adore you. You make me want to strive to be a better mom every time I read your writing. Crying big fat tears, because I had a fight with my three year old this morning and lost my temper. Something I try to never do–going to wrap him in a hug after his nap and let him know just how sorry I am.
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    • Thanks, you!

      {Although remember I’m the one who actually had something to apologize for!}

      #NotMommyOfTheYear #TotallyOkayWithIt

      :)
      Galit Breen recently posted..So Very SorryMy Profile

  4. I’ve had a few of those mornings myself. I hate sending the kids to school like that; I wonder if they just forget about the bad morning, or if it stays with them all day like it does me. I love that you went back to school to apologize, I think I may do that next time.
    xo
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    • I wonder that, too. I remember a few doozies with my own mom that stuck with me throughout the day.

      Thanks for the words and love, mama. I so appreciate both.

      xo
      Galit Breen recently posted..So Very SorryMy Profile

  5. That took a lot of courage and I bet she will always remember that moment. I mean you could have waited until she got home but you did not. We all have moments, mornings, times we regret but what you did for her, made it all better. I promise.

    xo

  6. Great post.
    I’ve also visited my daughter at school…. It just nagged at me, and I knew if I was still thinking about our heated words, so was she.
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    • Yes, that. Exactly that.

      {Also, shuddering at heated words. That’s so what they are, isn’t it?}

      Thank you for the words, friend! I so appreciate them!
      Galit Breen recently posted..So Very SorryMy Profile

  7. Beautiful! You mention your heartstring was repaired with your simple words, and I’m sure hers was too :)
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  8. I’m not a mom, but I think that other people commenting are/will be moms… So I’m kind of feeling out of place leaving this comment here with you. I do hope you will take to heart, though. It’s not too much…

    Whatever it was that had happened with you two, apologizing is really… It’s genuinely a nice gesture that you did. I’m 21, and my mom never apologized to me for anything she did/her husband did to me. I’d always [metaphorically speaking] walk away from whatever happened feeling like it was my fault, even when they wouldn’t tell me it was my fault. When I moved in with my dad in 2007, life was different. Anytime he would get onto me, lose his temper, etc. he would say, “I’m sorry.” My mom denies everything that ever happened and makes up stories of her own about how I was just a troubled kid from the get-go, deserved everything, etc., thus disallowing us to be able to ever have a great relationship (or even that mother-daughter relationship ‘all your friends have’, as I call it). Apologizing really does make a difference… It’s nice to know there’s a mom like you out there who apologized.

    And sorry for being cheesy; I’m not really good at leaving these kinds of things without them seeming completely redundant in the end.
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  9. My eyes were filled with tears while reading this! This is so beautiful and moving! It is a reminder that we are to lead by example and this paints a beautiful picture of just that!
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  10. This might be my favorite piece of yours EVER. SO real. So beautiful. Makes me wish all moms were like you. Wonderful, Galit. It may have been hard to write, but you are going to make so many mothers feel good today with your words.
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  11. This is the third time I’m attempting to write some kind of comment , Galit.

    I’m rarely at a loss for words (as you know, my sweetheart!), but I am. That you did what you did, it is a rare and beautiful thing. And a lesson for us all to take and tuck away in our hearts.
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  12. Oh, Galit. Wow. I’m teary. And so proud of you. Apologizing is hard. Good for you. And her.
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  13. You are amazing! What a great way to teach your child the power of words and how they can heal and help fix a troubled moment.
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  14. LOVED this scene for the writing AND the message. Yes, I think it’s important to apologize. Parents aren’t perfect and it’s okay for kids to know!

    Well done, Galit.
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  15. I’m blubbering. It’s not 7 am and I am a blubbering mess. I love your honesty, Galit. I love your writing. And most of all I love the way you love your babies.
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    • I love every single word of what you wrote.

      Especially that it started with blubbering.

      Who knew that could be used and taken as a compliment?!

      Love. And thank you. {truly}
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  16. One of my favorite posts is bout apologizing to my kids- not because of the outcome, but because of the emotion behind the realization that led me to write it. It’s a humbling experience, but even better when they show you how amazing they are with an “It’s okay mommy”. My pregnant self is crying over this one! Beautiful my friend!
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  17. You are an amazing mom, Galit. Believe it. (and writer, too. of course.)
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  18. First, I’m glad the receptionist at your school is nicer than ours. (She’s an old battle ax!)

    Second? I bet your kids are as awesome as you are!
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    • Thank you, girlfriend!

      (Also, those secretaries can be tough cookies, can’t they? You’re right. We are, indeed, lucky that our’s is a sweetheart and takes in the crazy like a pro! :))
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  19. Galit,

    Jack just turned 15 and I can say with no exaggeration that we have had MANY moments where I dropped him off with barely a “good bye” let alone an “I love you, have a nice day.”

    He is my fighter, questioner; my stubborn one who greets most of my statements with a challenge on his lips.

    I often find myself apologizing to my DAUGHTER on mornings like this; saying I’m sorry to her because her drive to school has been marred by the war between my son and me. But I have never gone into school to seek out Jack for reconciliation.

    And now that he’s in high school, I’m sure he’d rather die than have me do this.
    So good for you for starting this precedent of forgiveness early.

    All three of your children are so very lucky to have you.

    p.s. They are also lucky their school lets them wear flip flops :-)
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    • I love what you wrote about the precedence of forgiveness. I think the same about the habit of owning your mistakes, you know?

      I also think what you said about apologizing the other children who are just there and all of this “stuff” becomes part of their morning just because is so very important. Ohmygoodness I have so many apologies to make! Le sigh.

      Also? No flip flops?! What is that score 1 for MN? :)

      Thanks for your ever thoughtful words, girl. Love ’em.
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  20. Oh galit, beautiful as usual. I love reading your words. What a wonderful moment to take a mistake and make it beautiful.
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  21. Galit, I have done the same thing with Ash. I couldn’t get over how are morning had gone before she got on the bus and I had to see her before the end of the school day. I never could put it down into words as warmly as you did but my heart feels it that way. I was with you in every word. xo!
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  22. I love that you went there mid-day to apologize. I would have done the same thing. And that? She will remember for the rest of her life…
    xoxo
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  23. This was so beautiful…and it’s stayed with me all day. Can’t stop thinking about it. Thank you, Galit, as always, for reminding me what kind of parent I want to be. xoxo

  24. Oh Galit:

    I love that you made the trip, the effort to apologize, all the way to school. In doing so you teach so many lessons: that you could not bear the thought that your child might have been hurting and that children deserve to be treated with the same dignity and respect we treat adults. I often apologize to my son – though, lately, the tables have been tipped, and he’s the one who has had to so his “I’m sorry’s.” but he has. And they have been genuine. Because I think (I hope) I modeled this, too. That mommies are not perfect, and sometimes we goof up. This is among your most tight and most beautiful glimpses into your world. Complete with hearstirings. Just a lovely picture. Thank you for sharing with us.
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    • Oh I love your words, and your view of things from “the flip side” as your sweet boy is more grown and reflecting all of your goodness back at you.

      What we’re all striving for, yes?

      Thank you for the kind words, you. I really appreciate them. {truly}
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  25. This is so so so important! We never talked about anything in my family, and it wasn’t until I was in my 20s that I really learned how to apologize. I’m just glad I learned it before I had kids. It makes all the difference.

    • I’m over the moon for how you worded, “learned how to apologize.”

      Isn’t that the truth? Learning how to authentically apologize and mean it is a skill and it does need to be learned and practiced. You’re so wise, and I love it!

      {Also, thank you for the words, girl! Love them, too!}
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  26. So sweet! I fear I would have just waited for her to come home — and I love that you didn’t :)
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  27. Ahh…to be able to say, “I’m sorry.” It is something I am working on perfecting since I do it often these days. You are a great mom, Galit and a wonderful example! Beautifully written.
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    • Thank you, Ann Marie. Truly.

      {I’m so totally and completely still working on it, too. Ohmygoodness – working on it every.single.day!}

      Happy to be “in it” all with you!
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  28. This is beautiful, Galit. And humbling. I think sometimes as adults, as parents, we forget about the power of sincere apologies to our children. We think they’re too young to understand or that they don’t feel the same we do about hurts and injuries. But they do understand, they do feel. They do need to hear an “I’m sorry” when things have gone wrong.
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    • I love what you said, and I couldn’t possibly agree more. We all get it when someone is insincere – and that feels horrid.

      And the opposite is so very true as well – they need to see us come back from our mistakes with love and respect. That is all.

      {Love your words, girl!}
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  29. I should have known to grab a Kleenex first. *sniff*

    What a testament to the way you raise your children. Modeling for them how to do our best to right a wrong, to mend a relationship, to build a bridge of understanding and love.

    Breathtaking, your love for your daughter is.
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  30. I do sorries, too. It’s something my parents never did. After being too harsh or even getting it wrong there was no ‘I’m sorry’. So, it’s something I do with my kids when I’ve been too harsh, unkind. I make mistakes often, but I don’t want to make the mistake of never taking responsibility or having a hard heart.
    This is lovely – the writing and your heart.
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    • Thank you for those words, sweet friend.

      {I think your heart is lovely, too. But you already knew that, yes?}

      I make mistakes all the time, too. I’m all about doing and modeling the habit of owning and fixing them.

      Thank you, again. Truly.
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  31. Galit~
    Reading your words again in just like easing myself into my favoirte chair and listening to the heart of my friend. I love this post…the warmth, the imagry, the authenticity of it. I too have learned the beauty of being humble in our children’s eyes and my teenagers now reflect that humbleness back. :)
    So glad to be reading you again!

  32. That just warmed my heart. What a beautiful thing for you to do.
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  33. Beautiful Galit – this is the stuff your children will remember when they’re grown up. It’s inspiring.
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