Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be. Today, I am excited to welcome Diane, host of Yahoo’s This Week in M.O.M.!
I was lucky enough to meet Diane in person at BlogHer last summer. She’s one of those people who you instantly like. She’s warm, confident, funny and makes you feel like you’ve been friends for years.
Diane is a single mom of a little boy, TV host, actor and dancer, and of course a blogger. And she also is VP of Culture for PopChips. Do you know what that means? Ashton Kutcher is her boss! Yep, the Ashton Kutcher. She’s a lucky girl, huh?
So go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
Single Mom Victory!
When I was married, certain parenting responsibilities just fell into traditional gender circles. I cooked. I did laundry. I grocery shopped. He set the sprinklers. He cleaned the yard. He killed bugs.
Now a divorced single mom, I had to let a lot of that stuff go. I’ve learned (kind of) how the sprinklers work. I change the smoke alarm batteries. I kill bugs. I fix stuff or call people to fix stuff. The buck stops with me around our house. There is no waiting ‘til your father gets home. If I don’t do it, it ain’t getting done.
Nonetheless, I always thought that teaching my son to ride a bike would be his father’s job. Don’t know why, but just assumed that it would fall into the sprinklers/yard work/bug killing realm. But seeing as how I bought K a bike, which is at my house, and that my dad just helped me take the training wheels off, someone’s got to teach this kid to ride. I had to step up.
I was afraid. My own gender assumptions had stifled me to think that I wouldn’t be able to do this, that my newfound bug-killing skills wouldn’t transfer to the bike-riding instruction department. But now, with my son looking up at me, counting on me not to let him fall and eat pavement…I had to put all that aside and focus. How do I teach my kid to ride a bike?
My dad was here the first day we took the training wheels off and explained to K, “If your bike starts leaning, you turn your wheel that way.” Good one, Grandpa, great reminder. I wasn’t able to verbalize that one. My natural instruction was more along the lines of “Pedal! Pedal! Pedal!” Good start.
But Grandpa went home and I was left with a 4 year old, a big boy bike, and a sore back from running down the street stooped over holding the seat, the handlebars, and 43 lbs. of unsteady weight. But what were my choices? After some rest, I bucked up and told myself that we are going to do this. Period. He will learn to ride a bike. However long it may take, we. will. do. this.
And you know what? The very next time we set out sans training wheels, we did it. Mostly K did it, but I’m still claiming a major mommy victory. I overcame my mental block and earned the bragging rights and discovery that there is no feeling in the world like watching your kid ride a bike for the first time.
It can be summed up best in the words of Mama Klump:
“Hercules! Hercules! Hercules!”
The look on K’s face when he realized I was running alongside him, not holding on at all was an unforgettable moment that I will hold dear to my heart forever.
It’s not every day that you chalk a victory up in the “mom is awesome” column. Most days just taking a shower or getting the kids to school feels like a victory. But it’s in those moments of sheer joy when you see your child learn something new, or do something they (and you) doubted they could, that it’s all worth it. All of it. Well, I’d like to stop peeing when I sneeze, but it’s still worth it. I feel proud of us. We both doubted mom’s ability to get this one checked off the list, but now that he’s up and riding, it’s the sweetest victory of all.
Diane, I couldn’t have said it better myself! The pride and sense of accomplishment that goes along with watching your child achieve a goal is seriously one of the best feelings in the world. One of my favorites was watching Ethan write his name by himself for the first time…hey moms, what are some of yours?
We all take on so much as moms – it’s a tough gig! There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to Yahoo’s This Week in M.O.M. and say hello to Diane. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find her there, and on Facebook, too! And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!
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