Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
Today, I’m so excited to welcome Desiree from Sarcastic, Funny and Brutally Honest! Desiree is mom to two with another on the way. She also lives in the same city I do, and we’ve met before and keep planning to get the kids together (we really have to do it soon, Desiree!)
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
I’d like to start of my guest post: “Mommy Moment” by admitting to you all here at Mommy of a Monster and Twins that I had a very hard time choosing a “moment” to share. Well, to be more exact, I had a hard time weeding through the hours upon hours of my awesome parenting skills to find just a single “moment”. I’m not proud of the fact that I fail on an almost daily basis, I’m just comfortable enough to admit it to you all.
“The Incredible Green Hulk Mommy”
Disclaimer: It was a stressful week, my 18th month old finally decided to grow some molars and was cranky and needy as all hell, I had errands and appointments and writing due dates and play dates and activities up the ying yang and my husband was non-existent when I needed him the most-he had been working late every night that week. Oh and I had just hit the 24 week pregnancy mark. You know the mark: the one where you lose your marbles and teeter on the brink of insanity?
We were rushing to get out the door after a hectic morning of whining, complaining and arguing about toys and what to eat for breakfast and what to wear and what to watch on T.V. and yadda yadda. We were heading towards a local children’s museum to meet up with some friends. We were running late, nothing new for this family but this particular morning was different (see disclaimer). On this particular morning, while we were rushing to get out the door to meet our friends on time I snapped. But I didn’t just “snap”…I lost my sh*t. I became in an instant, The Incredible Green Hulk Mommy.
My 5 year old son started crying because he couldn’t put his shoes on, my 18th month old daughter was squirming and shrieking and not allowing me to get her dressed. The house was a mess, the messiest it had been in weeks, I wasn’t dressed and we were late. So I started screaming. I screamed at both kids, I screamed about how messy the house was. I yelled “clean up this sh*t” to my son.
I used the word “sh*t” in front of my kids.
I had never, in my life ever used profanity in front of my children before. Ever.
Like a crazy person, I started throwing all of the toys that were strewn across the house into one big heap in the middle of the family room.
My children stood there-still as hunted prey, eyes as large as saucers watching me. They watched me stomp and huff and puff and turn bright red. They watched me lose my cool. They watched me turn into the Incredible Green Hulk Mom.
I can only imagine how terrified they must have been. I’m usually pretty collected even when I am angry, even when I am disciplining I don’t curse, I don’t throw toys, I don’t stomp around like a mad man.
My mommy moment is probably not something you haven’t heard before and is probably something that many mothers have done. However, this was something new to me, cursing in front of my children and losing my cool was something I had never done. I am not proud of my “mommy moment” and to be quite honest, I am embarrassed to admit it. I can however, admit that I am more aware now of the extreme stress factors that can lead to extreme over exaggerated destructive behavior. I know now, that if I’m having a bad week and nothing is going well to take a moment to breathe and relax before attempting to accomplish anything. And for the love, I know now that if my son starts yelling the word “sh*t” at the dog, to blame it on my husband.
Thanks for sharing, Desiree! Unfortunately I cuss in front of my kids more often than I’d like to admit. I am really impressed that you’ve only done it once!
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to Sarcastic, Funny and Brutally Honest and say hello to Desiree If you are a Twitter addict, you can find @DesireeEaglin there too, and on facebook as well. And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!
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