That’s right! It’s time for another Mommy Moment at the Monster! If you’re not sure what a Mommy Moment at the Monster is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
Today, I’m so excited to welcome Debi from The TRUTH About Motherhood! Debi is one of the most honest, open, no-bullshit bloggers out there. She’s funny and sarcastic…just how I like my friends. She’s also a Twitterholic much like myself. More importantly, she’s got two beautiful little girls who call her Mommy.
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
Truthful Mommy Style: A Crappy Day in an Otherwise Awesome Existence
Mommy Moment~ The entire point of my writing is to be honest with you. Yeah, you… you, other Mommies. Honest not just when my kids are adorable, sweet and hilarious but also when they are being raging lunatics, whining brats and pretty much straight up assholes. Oh, don’t get me wrong, they are my world. So, welcome to my world. A crappy day in an otherwise awesome existence.
This is how it started…
The Mommy Moment Recipe, just add crying babies
Daddy’s been traveling a lot for an out of town job, so I am basically single Mommying it (which sucks, by the way.) I’m not cut out for it. I don’t have the stomach or the patience for it. It’s basically been a ‘No’ fest, with lots of ‘I don’t want to’s’, refusals to sleep, eat, basically to adhere to any and all rules I may have. To make things worse, my youngest has developed quite the knack for incessant whining and sporadic screaming outbursts for absolutely no reason at all. As you all already know, there is no rationalizing with a little one ( from age 7 and under you are basically talking to yourself.) Lately, I’ve found myself doing a lot of threatening. Threatening that I would calling the cops to come take her away. Officer friendly is welcome to come take me away. Please come take someone away. Threatening to send her to her Grandma’s, child services…. You get the picture?
and then this happened.
dash ton of stress to get your Monster Mommy Moment
Bottom line, I’ve become a really shitty mom; at least that’s the way I feel. No, I am pretty sure that I have, in fact, been a pretty shitty Mommy. I’ve been saying things I don’t mean, trying to get her to stop this behavior without physically spanking her tiny little tush. I don’t spank because ,quite frankly, I’m afraid that with my temper I couldn’t stop. I was excessively spanked as a child and I hated it. It hurt, it was scary, and it sucked. I behaved but it negatively affected my relationship with my father. Yesterday, I went off the deep end and yelled. Really.YELLED! I yelled so loudly, it sounded as ferocious as when a lion roars. And then, I cried and apologized because it was such a shitty thing to do to someone so little who I love so much. I cried, then she cried, then her sister cried. I think we were all tired and emotional because Sunday’s are the days Daddy leaves. I’m not making excuses for my shitty behavior, I am repenting. I am sharing because I know I am not the only Mommy who has plunged herself over the deep end and landed in a pile of emotional wreckage. Today’s a new day, things are better. I’ve decided to employ the positive reinforcement rather than punishment. I wonder, how many stars I get for keeping my cool and not crying?
Monster Mommy Moments, we all have them. We love our children so ferociously that sometimes we roar. There is no room for wallowing in guilt in parenting. Parent with love and recognize your shortcomings, lead with your heart and you will survive the Monster Mommy moments. In the end, our children will remember the good Mommy Moment filled with unconditional love and support because these are in greater abundance than those few monster mommy moments that we all have on occasion.
What was Your Monster Mommy Moment?
Thank you for sharing this Debi…and I don’t think any of us think you are a shitty mom…you’re just a mom! We freak out, we screw up, and sometimes we lose control. That’s part of being a mom, right? You’re normal!
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to The TRUTH About Motherhood and if you are new there, make sure to tell Debi that I sent you!
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