Welcome to another Mommy Moment! If you’re not sure what it is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
Today, I’m so excited to welcome Coreen from The Adventures of Captain Fussy Pants and Little Miss! Coreen is a friend that I chat with on Twitter all the time, and one I’m hoping to meet soon! She is a mom of two and blogs about her adventures on this journey we call motherhood.
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
When Natalie asked me if I’d like to participate in Mommy Moments I immediately said yes (I’m so honored to have even been considered) and it just so happened that I was actually having a mommy moment right then. So it was serendipitous.
As I started thinking about what I wanted to write, I got dizzy. I have two kids, a 5-yr old son and a 19-month old daughter and I’ve had mommy moments with them both, with them separately and without them even around. My husband is a firefighter and his shifts are 24-72 hours at a time, so you can imagine how many mommy moments there are to be had when it’s just you and them. Or is it you vs. them? But I kept coming back to my defining mommy moment, the one that I still think about even though it transpired almost three years ago.
This took place in May, 2009 when my son Mattias AKA Captain Fussypants was 2.5 years old. My son is and has always been obsessed with water and when he was two that meant he was also obsessed with the fridge built-in water dispenser. To the point we had to keep it locked so he could not mess with it.
But one night I forgot.
I was making dinner so able to supervise the toddler/fridge interaction but my cell phone rang and of course it was buried at the bottom of my purse, which was in the dining room, so I walked out of the kitchen and in that span of seconds, Fussypants seized the opportunity to grab a plastic cup and started filling away. Toddlers are freakishly fast. I heard water running, and then I heard water splashing on tile.
I ran back into the kitchen and saw that not only was the cup full, he was overfilling it and water was running all down the front of the fridge, all down his arms and all over the floor.
I hollered STOP but he gave me toddler stink eye and a look of determination (you all know that look) and kept filling the glass. Water was everywhere. So I snatched the cup out of his hands – we had one of those intense mommy/toddler stare-downs and then….
I dumped the full cup of ice cold water on his head. And there you have it. Monster Mommy Moment magic. I don’t understand what possessed me to dump water on my kid’s head then and I still don’t today. I just know I was really pissed that he had spilled so much water and even more pissed that he deliberately ignored me when I yelled stop.
He looked at me, not upset but also not laughing and said, “Mommy, don’t do that. I’m all wet.” His statement of the obvious diffused my anger. I got him a towel, took off his tee (springtime in SoCal, so he was only wearing that and a diaper) and dried him off. Then gave him another towel and told him to clean up the water on the floor.
Instead, he laid down tummy first in the large puddle and exclaimed, “I’m swimming”.
Although he was unfazed, I was shaken that I had dumped ice cold water on my small child’s head and called my mom, crying, to tell her what a horrible mommy I was. She laughed at me and said she thought I was calling to tell her I had spanked him, which made me laugh because my first reaction was to drench him, not spank him. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been known to spank, yell and stomp my feet but for some reason, that time, none of those things seemed appropriate.
In the end he and I cleaned the floor together and I never again forgot to lock the water dispenser.
Now that he’s older he doesn’t pull stunts like that (he instead whacks his sister in the head nearly every time he walks by her) so we don’t lock the water dispenser but we’ll start again soon because his very determined little sister is almost tall enough to reach it and I now know what to expect when she can.
Thanks for sharing, Coreen! Believe me, I’ve had a few of these kinds of Mommy Moments myself, and I’m not proud of them. I’m just glad Ethan never took an interest in the water cooler and the girls haven’t either (yet)! It’s interesting how we react to different things, and how sometimes our reactions even surprise us.
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to The Adventures of Captain Fussy Pants and Little Miss and say hello to Coreen. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find @coreenie_k there too, and if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!