Mommy Moment at the Monster – Jessica Style

Yay! Check out my new button…I’m changing the name of Monster Mommy Moments to Mommy Moments at the Monster. I decided to change the name after people kept asking if they had to write about a horrible parenting moment…and that is not the point of MMM at all! All stories can be shared…monster moments, happy moments, funny moments, and on and on.

So help me welcome Jessica from Four Plus an Angel to share her Mommy Moment with us all! Jessica is also a mom of two 3 year olds, is a Twitter addict, and I swear we could be long lost sisters…or at the very least, I know I’ll love her when I finally get a chance to meet her in person!

Jessica is also hosting a very cool meme from July 18th – July 29th called My Kids Are the Messiest and I’m sure if you have kids that you’ll be able to hook up to her meme.

So please help me welcome Jessica so she can share her Mommy Moment with us. It happens to be a monster mommy moment, and when she sent it to me my jaw dropped to the floor because I did the exact same thing earlier that afternoon!

If you’re not sure what a Mommy Moment at the Monster is, you can read all about how my weekly feature came to be here.

Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!


I had already been awake for three hours. There was yet to be a moment when I could even hold a toothbrush or finish a much needed cup of coffee.

I had ushered a moody preteen out the door to school, attempted to reason with a toddler about the color of her sippy cup, wearing boots in the summer and calling me by my first name.

My other toddler had created a custom design on the curtains that I was desperately trying to scrub off while rubbing my teething babies gums and reciting “Brown Bear, Brown Bear” so many times my eyes were beginning to cross.

I knew what I needed to do.

A Sanity Drive was in order.

You know, when you pile all of your children in the car, counting the moments until they are all happily hypnotized and you can let your mind drift to your next blog post, how many hours are left until the weekend or what you might wear someday when there is no threat of spit up stains on your chest.

As we drive, my mind begins to numb in the semi-quiet. They ask me questions. I have no idea what they are but I answer.

I have no idea what I answer either but whatever I’m saying it must be good because they are quiet again.

Eventually I tune in just enough to notice how loud my daughter’s voice seems.

We talk about her brothers, how much they like the movie I put on, how one lost his binky and the other has something on his face.

How the car seat button go click-click-click and how nice it is she is holding their hands and then finally my brain kicks into gear and


Did I never notice that maybe I only buckled TWO little people into their car seats instead of three?

Off I had been on my little Sanity Drive and apparently I was going insane because we had been in the car a good fifteen minutes while I chatted with my then two year-old daughter, who was standing proudly about a foot from my head.

That day I learned a very important lesson:

Days inside with no sleep, no adult interaction and no caffeine can lead to five minutes of talking to yourself that is so interesting you are able to drown out a life-threatening mistake.


Jessica, thank you for sharing your Monster Mommy Moment with us…and for reminding us all to slow down. Like I said, I just did this last Friday, and I couldn’t stop thinking about it long after we got home. The “what ifs” can drive you crazy. We are moms, we make mistakes, and sometimes they could be a lot bigger than they turn out to be, this is a reminder of why being present is so important.

Now go swing by Four Plus an Angel and say hello to Jessica, and if you’re new there make sure to tell her that I sent you. I know you’ll really enjoy her blog!


  1. I have done this TWICE with my 4 year old! The problem is he is old enough to get up in his chair by himself, so I let him get in first and get up into his chair while I buckle in his sister. Then instead of going around to do his I get in and start driving! Luckily both times he spoke up and told me I forgot before we went more then a block. Still, I felt horrible about it!
  2. Oh my, so glad you realized it, Jessica! I am so paranoid about forgetting to buckle in my toddler. So far, I've not forgotten, because I keep telling myself, buckle buckle buckle. However, I am not outnumbered :)
  3. So glad you realized this! I'm always afraid I've forgotten to buckle one of mine once we get into the car!
  4. I have a 5 year old who I remember to buckle in, but as we're driving down the road he'll unbuckle himself.
  5. Oh I have done this more times than I can count (really does that make me a totally horrible mother!) with all three of my children. Usually something happens that prompts the child to realize they are not buckled and then they panick and I have to calmly (with my heart beating out of my chest) tell them it is fine and I will pull over as soon as I can. And of course it is always fun to be subjected to my bad mommy moment by my judgemental tween as well. Now I do think Jessica has a little bit of trouble on her hands because her toddler was not in the least bit panicked about not being buckled in and in fact seemed to be loving every minute of it!
  6. We have all been there - sleep deprivation is used as a method of torture ... never forget that!
  7. Sleep deprivation leads to crazy things! And oh the Sanity Drive...we have one where we pass by horses. It's a nice break for all of us, and I keep a book in the car just in case they BOTH fall asleep, and I hang out in the driveway reading for a few blissful moments :)
  8. Thanks for sharing your moment Jessica.
  9. I have totally done that too and my kids hate seat belts so they sit really, really still so that I don't notice and don't buckle them. Also, I am so jealous that you get quiet in your car. All I get is talking.... lots and lots of talking.
    • Oh, those days are over, this was pre-talking and fighting. Now it is total chaos in our car. Just coming off a four hour car ride and I think my ears are still ringing.
  10. Thank goodness you realised hun. We do have moments where our immediate need for sanity overrides all other signs of things (good and bad). Thank you for sharing.
  11. I had one of these times, too, though I can't even point to hectic behavior as the blame! I really like your idea for a sanity drive, though!
    • Not sure what I would do without the sanity drive, especially since there is a drive thru Starbucks close by. :)
  12. I think that's a mistake we've all made. I know I've done it more with my oldest than the younger one. My oldest is quick to correct me though, because he always wants to be right.
    • Mine wants to be right but also wants to get away with something so it's a tough balance on whether to tell me or not. :)
  13. I did this once too when my baby was about a year old. Realized it before we got on any major roads which was good.
  14. I've done it. My husband has done it. Turns out, we are all human. :)
  15. Oh, Jessica! Thank goodness nothing happened, right? I think we are all handed these little "episodes" just to remind us next time to pay more attention. I can't tell you how many friends I have heard tell me about forgetting the carseat buckles!
  16. Eek! I've done that, too. When S was a tiny baby, we got all the way to daycare before I realized I'd never buckled her in. Then I can't tell you how many times after she could talk we pulled out of the driveway and she'd remind me I hadn't buckled her in. Thankfully, the day we had an accident, I remembered. If only I had gotten them dressed that morning, too....
  17. I totally get the sanity drive. So far our drives have been relatively boring (except for the occasional whimpering), but I only have 1 child. I'm glad everyone was ok though!
  18. Oh I have done this. Also, I love sanity drives. xo
    • Let's plan a sanity drive at the same time, how long would it take to get halfway from Minnesota to Michigan?? :)
  19. Thanks for sharing this moment! I did something kind of similar (sort of) when I had forgotten to attach the carseat to the SEAT OF THE CAR. So yeah, T was all buckled into his carseat, but if we'd been in an accident, that seat would have gone flying!
  20. I take the sanity drive often. Sometimes, I leave the kids at home. Talk about a "moment"
  21. It's happened to the best of us. I've only got one and I can't keep her straight half the time. Love seeing Jessica here!
  22. It happens! I did the same thing with Lanagan this spring. The four of us were driving from our house to the Village of Rochester. I drove on M-59 for 7 miles with him not buckled in. Total parenting #fail, once again. ;) We have several arguments over sippy cup colors in this house as well. Glad I'm not alone there either!
    • I drove quite a ways too, I don't think we made it to the freeway though. I will remember to tell my kids to guard our sippy cups next time we see you :).
  23. I have done this before with my daughter. I've had to pull over on the side of the road to get her back in. I've even locked her in the car with the keys inside. Sometimes motherhood can get the best of us.
    • I locked mine in the other day too. Luckily they weren't in their car seats yet and I was able to explain to one how to unlock the door. Good to know I'm not alone!
  24. Oh my goodness! I have forgotten to buckle a carseat too! Scared the crap out of me!
    • So scary isn't it? I almost had a heart attack once I realized what I had done and how long I had been driving for.
  25. Yes, I've done that recently! Thank goodness my 3 yo was like, "Moooommmmmm, isn't there something you forgot?" Before we even got out of the driveway!
  26. Thanks so much for having me my long lost sister. Glad that I am not alone!
  27. wait...we are supposed to buckle them in? I kid, I kid. Today after daycare Eddie kept telling me "ow, mama. ow" and I had no idea what he was talking about. I had left one of his arms out when i buckled. He was all scrunched weird. And apparently mad at me.
  28. I remember the first time I heard a little voice form the back seat pipe up with "Mommy, why am I not buckled into my carseat?" I nearly had a heart attack. we are city people, don't drive that much, and so didn't have a routine down pat yet. Now of course they are big enough to buckle themselves and at age 8 are even totally out of boosters. It's all the distant past. But I'll never forget those few "what could have been" heart-stopping moments.
  29. I've done this more times than I like to admit. Thankfully, my kids now know to yell at me if we are leaving the driveway w/o all of them buckled in.
  30. LOL! Thanks for posting this story Jessica! Just last week I pulled into the garage after picking my two kids up from daycare and made the trek home. I opened the back door for my 3 year old and reached in to unbuckle him only to realize I had not buckled him to begin with. Oy! Thanks for the reminder to slow down. :D
  31. Sleep deprivation is definitely a form of torture and an absent mind. I've been there.