That’s right! It’s time for another Mommy Moment at the Monster! If you’re not sure what a Mommy Moment at the Monster is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
So let’s welcome Ashley from My Front Porch Swing! Ashley is a mommy of two and a friend whom I adore. We actually started our social media venture Fourtini together with our two other partners-in-crime, and of course, we also are in kahootz on Have Wine, Will Drink, too. In other words, we are very good friends and talk via Skype and Twitter all day, every day. I pink-puffy-heart love her! Not only all of that, but she is amazing when it comes to the tech side of blogging, and knows how to do just about everything. She also writes over at Business2Blogger. She is BUSY!
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
Do you have that mom in your child’s classroom or on his/her team? The one who looks completely together, 100% of the time? She is early for everything, always has fresh-baked treats and is never flustered? Yeah, me too.
It’s not me. It’s so not me.
Instead, I have found myself in some serious monster mommy moments. Trying to balance life’s craziness as of late with a kindergartner and a 2 year old, I have lately found myself so short on this patient concept that I have made some serious mom fails lately. The biggest one? Making my son feel as though I didn’t care what he had to say.
As mothers, it is our responsibility and privilege to raise our children, to set an example for them. We make many mistakes among the way, and normally I am a huge proponent of not beating ourselves up over things. We can only do so much. We work hard to be the solid foundation for our families, to help teach our children while maintaining a household and preparing meals. We strive to balance the time needed to be a wife, to be a mom, to be ourselves. become. Because of this, mistakes are made, hindsight often leaving us in clouds of guilt and second-guessing. Mom guilt is something so strong and powerful that it can shake even the best mother down to her core over the simplest of things.
But I told my child to just stop talking. My son, brimming with energy and excitement over every new discovery he makes, chattering away about his learning at school, anxious to share news with his mom. I have a million and one excuses- I was tired, exhausted from lack of sleep and an incredibly miserable teething toddler. I was stressed out by recent discoveries of some life events, and he had not stopped talking for somewhere in the area of at least a half an hour. But none of these excuses measure up to the giant mom fail I had committed in taking away his excitement for his day.
To compound my monster mommy status? After I crushed my child’s excitement for the day, I tried to apologize and focus some attention on him. At which point my toddler decided she had to be in the middle of everything. So then, I snapped at her. I found myself sitting in a playroom filled with toys with a crying toddler, and upset five year old, and feeling completely defeated.
Monster mommy status complete. At that point, I guiltily told them they could play Wii and gave them a cookie. Yep, completely bribed them. (I have to admit, it worked).
What do you resort to in times of utter lost patience? Am I the only one who turns to bribes?
Thank you for sharing these moments Ashley, and for being honest about had patience-testing motherhood can be. It’s really hard to balance all the work, and the kids, and the house and everything else we have to deal with…while remaining cool all the while. And I bet 99% of the moms that read this would agree.
By you sharing your thoughts on mommyhood with us, you are reminding us all that it’s a hard job, it’s challenging, and our patience is tested daily…and more often than not, hourly!
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to Ashley’s place My Front Porch Swing and if you are new there, make sure to tell her that I sent you!