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Today, I’m so excited to welcome Amanda from It’s Blogworthy! Amanda is mommy to a little baby boy, and she is one of the the sweetest bloggers out there. She’s super funny and wicked smart…when it comes to social media she knows her stuff! If you don’t already know her, go check out her blog; I promise she’ll make you laugh!
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
We can all agree that being a mom is hard work, whether you work from home, work outside the home or are a stay at home mom.
Holding a full time job with a young baby adds a new layer of guilt and anxiety to new motherhood. My first few months back to work, I was constantly worrying about him. Was he happy and healthy? Was his daycare provider taking good care of him? Did he miss me? What milestones am I missing out on while I’m away from him 40 hours a week?
We had a rough start with our daycare provider, a neighbor who had recently started an in-home daycare in part to take care of her granddaughter. She questioned everything we did, from our nap schedule to the amount of milk I was providing my son. Every day, my husband would pick him up and she’d tell him our son had a “rough day”. She looked like she just plain didn’t enjoy what she was doing.
And that’s where my son was three days a week.
My husband is a teacher and only taught three days, so luckily I knew the baby was in good hands at least a few days. When summer came, he left daycare until August, when my husband went back to work.
During the summer, we searched for a new daycare and found one we thought was perfect. We signed the papers, and then two weeks before it was time for him to star, the new sitter emailed me and said she was bumping him for a full time child. We were devastated because on paper she seemed perfect, but also panicked — how could we find someone great, affordable and who takes part-time children in two weeks?
We found a friend’s daughter to watch him for a few weeks to buy us some time. Meanwhile, I got the name of an in-home daycare from a friend. Mayra, the provider, came with excellent references, so we set up a time to meet.
Mayra’s home was clean and basic, filled with toys. We talked to her about schedules, routines, how she entertains her kids during the day, kids she has in her care. We felt comfortable with her instantly, but what sealed the deal was when she picked up Luke, held him in her arms, and talked about how fast children grow up, with tear in her eye.
He started the new daycare right after Labor Day. I was nervous, of course, but he eagerly checked out the room and other children and seemed ready to hop right out of my arms. Mayra kept him on a strict schedule, with two naps every day, playtime, quiet time and meals the same time each day. In her care, he seemed to blossom. He explored more, babbled more and was always well rested. He got on the best schedule EVER. Every day she told me what a great baby he is and how fantastic his day was.
I was so proud of him for adapting so well. It was his first little step into toddler-hood, becoming more independent and more like a little boy than a baby.
The holidays came and she started doing crafts with her kids. I got my first piece of artwork from my son.
It made my heart grow about 15 sizes.
One day I opened the door to drop him off and he practically jumped out of my arms into hers. She laughed, kissed him on the forehead and said, “I love you sweet boy!”
That’s like music to a working mama’s ears.
With all the things to worry about as a mother, the care of your child shouldn’t be one. I’m so thankful we found the right one — just when we needed her most.
Thanks for sharing, Amanda! It’s so hard to be home with the kids all day, but I can’t imagine how hard it must be to find somebody that you trust, that truly cares for your child, to leave them with several days a week. My hat goes off to you working moms.
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to It’s Blogworthy and say hello to Amanda. If you are a Twitter addict, you can find @amandaaustin there too, and on facebook as well. And if you are a new follower, make sure to tell her that I sent you!
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