Disclaimer: I received an advanced PDF copy of Lose The Cape in exchange for this review. No other compensation was received. All the thoughts and opinions are my own.
I remember back to when I first had Ethan. I dreamed that motherhood would me wearing a billowy white nightgown while nursing the perfect baby in the perfect nursery. Never once did projectile vomiting or being covered in poop because baby blew out his diaper find their way into this dream.
Neither did Ethan teething and leaving teeth marks in his crib, or when I had the girls, them literally peeling paint off of my perfect nursery walls.
Oh how wrong I was! And it wasn’t too long into my motherhood journey that I realized that I wasn’t perfect and that the kids weren’t perfect. And that it was all okay. I even wrote a post titled Real Moms: You Can’t Be Perfect Everyday, But You ARE A Good Mom and included the mantra: “I am not a bad mom. I’m a good mom having a bad day” as a reminder to all moms to go easy on themselves.
I think that’s why I loved the book Lose The Cape, Realities From Busy Moms and Strategies To Survive so much.
Lose The Cape book description on Amazon:
This mothering gig is serious stuff.
There’s no handbook on how to deal with your kid, yet many moms feel pressured to be “supermom.” Sure, there are parenting books and websites and Pinterest, but it’s overwhelming. There’s so much to do, and despite our best efforts, we likely feel guilty for not doing more, doing better, doing it all.
This book is an attempt to reach out to all moms and let you know you’re already super.
Motherhood is by far the hardest thing I have ever done. It’s frustrating, and confusing, and full of joy, and full of good days and bad days, and it’s humbling. I learn so much from the kids about what kind of mother I am and want to be.
I wish Lose The Cape was around when I had my babies! It really keeps motherhood in perspective…in real life perspective. In the book, authors Alexa Bigwarfe and Kerry Rivera fight to kill off the image of “supermom” because none of us can be perfect moms. They recognize we are doing what’s best for us, our kids, our families….and we are all doing it our way. This no-nonsense, humorous and informative book Lose The Cape would definitely make a great baby shower gift for a first time mom!
Some of the tips in the book I found particularly useful were tips about:
- Nurturing your marriage after kids (this is SO important because your relationship absolutely changes!)
- Finding your support group (mom friends are important because they “get it” when you say that you are ready to sell your kids to gypsies)
- Putting down electronics to enjoy the moment (I need help with this)
- And one of my favorites: Not letting Pinterest make you feel like a failure (I love Pinterest, but I will never be a super creative DIYer)
When I was a new mom of twins and a 2 year old, life was not fun. It was work, and it was hard. It’s so important that you and your partner are on the same page, and luckily, Jason was more than willing to help and give me breaks. So were my sisters and mom. I think one thing I took away from Lose The Cape and that I always tell new moms is to not be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. And when it’s offered, take it! You aren’t super mom and you don’t have to be. It takes a village, as the saying goes.
Another point the book made that I loved was that we don’t have to spend every waking moment doing everything for our children to be good moms. Teach them to entertain themselves. Teach them to be independent. Teach them life.
Just remember that you are a good mom. You are doing your best, and that is enough.
Now head over to Amazon and get a copy of Lose The Cape…it’s a great reminder that you don’t have to be perfect!