I Don’t Feel Like Being a Mom Today

I’m tired and grouchy. And I don’t feel like being a mom today. I want the day off. I want to be by myself. To nap. And read. And watch whatever I want on TV, if the mood strikes me. I want to lay in the sun and not be bothered to fill up a water gun or wipe a runny nose. I don’t want to hear one more cry. I don’t want to change a poop diaper, or any diaper for that matter. I don’t want anybody to bug me for anything. And I want SILENCE.

My day began at exactly 5:40 this morning. This is in fact, my hubby’s fault, who by the way, is still sleeping at 8:00. Before he went to bed last night, he didn’t pull the shutters across the sliding glass door. So at daybreak, our idiot dogs started watching the backyard. Remember a couple of weeks back when I told you how they barked at rabbits incessantly? Yeah, well that’s what happened this morning. So all three of the kids woke up to the dogs barking. Startled, rapidly awakened children do not equal happy children.

So for the last two and a half hours, I’ve been blessed with whining. Crying. Tantrums. All three wanting to be held. All three unhappy. And I am ready to lose it. I’m already covered food and in snot, and it’s not my own. Runny noses all around, and all three of them think that wiping their noses on my sweats is the best way to get the boogers off their noses. It’s been a fantastic morning.

Please tell me I’m not the only mom that has days where you just don’t want to be a mom for the day? Please tell me that I’m not the only mom that has thought about hiding from crying kids, hoping that if they cry long enough, maybe hubby will finally hear it and come in and take over? Please tell me I’m not the only mom who starts yelling at the kids in the six o’clock morning hour?

On another note, I’ve been having some mommy blogger guilt. I wrote a post earlier in the week called Blogging’s Taking Over My Life!, and apparently I’m not the only one because I had almost 50 comments of you all nodding in empathy and agreement! After I wrote it, I stumbled across this gem titled Why Blogging Is Good For You written by Gigi over at Kludgy Mom. She made me realize that blogging is not only in my best interest, but in the best interest of my family as well! So check it out, and let me know if you agree.


  1. i don't feel like being one today either..will has a sinus infection and he is cranky. he decided to sleep in our bed last night and rolled all over us...needless to say i am exhausted. not as much as you, I am sure!
  2. I thought just two dogs and a husband were a lot to handle! Even if the dogs are up at 5:30am, I shove them outside and go back to bed! I don't blame you, you're entitled to feel that way.
  3. Hang in there, things can only get better! By the way, you are NOT alone. So far, today has been a good day in my house, in large part thanks to Sprout! Whatever works, right?! Hubby left this morning unt Tuesday, so I'm quite sure I will have more than a few trying moments of my own this weekend. Stay tuned...
  4. GAH! I don't feel like being a mom today either! I need a nap and time to write a review and to finish my Jen Lancaster book. I TOTALLY feel for you today, momma! Also, thank you for that link about blogging being good for you!!! Makes me feel better about it! :)
  5. Happy Mommy says:
    Oh.. It must be in the air. Or a full moon. I love my boys, hubby and dog so much, but today I am feeling just like you. And I very rarely say that! I need a day like you said. I want to craft, shop, and watch tv. is that so much to ask for? AHHHHHHHHH!
  6. Dazee Dreamer says:
    That is completely normal. There is nothing wrong with taking a time out for yourself. Even if it's just to run to get you a coffee (or drink of your choice) or go outside and take a picture.
  7. Kristin Glasbergen says:
    Tomorrow will be a new day.
    I would have sent then to wake their father up hours ago.
  8. Mommy's Sippy Cup says:
    Oh, girl. I had this day just this week. I'm sure we allllll have them. I would give anything for just one day to sleep in, be lazy, and lay out by a pool sipping on a drink or taking a nap in the sun. Ahhhh....but I'll wait. Babysitter? haha.
  9. Can't handle dogs at all which is why we just stick to our diabetic feline.
  10. I loved that list. Thanks for linking to it. I have days where I want to hide and sometimes I do. I am lucky though that Tobei lets me. Hope your day improves.
  11. Seriously, you are NOT alone. With any of that. I've had too many of those days to count.

    My solution? Lock the screaming children in the bedroom with the hubs, then run and hide.
  12. citymouse says:
    Oh Natalie, you definitely aren't the only one! When I had my last three kids, I had 3 under 3 at the same time (a singleton and a set of twins) and I know just how you feel. They're older now so things are different, but I still have those days.

    Stopping by from SITS... hope your weekend gets easier.
  13. You're definitely not alone! I have lots of days like this and I think it's totally normal.

    Although, if that were my husband still sleeping in at 8am, I'd probably march into the bedroom and drop my toddler into the bed with him. That would get him up! But seriously, when he does wake up, make sure he takes over for a little while and gives you some time to recharge. It's important.

    Stopping by from SITS!
  14. Stopping by from SITS, happy Saturday!

    You are very definitely not alone. By the time H got home from work last night I was beyond ready to just leave. Good thing I had an excuse to get out of the house for a half hour. What I wouldn't give for a whole day alone.

    Hope the weekend gets better for you!
  15. so sorry you are having a rough morning. we all have them and dream of escape. glad to know blogging is good for us because i'm thinking of starting another one, thanks to you :) hope the day improves and that you get some quiet time when hubby gets up ;)
  16. Funky Mama Bird says:
    I have so had days where I do not want to be a mom! Just for a few hours, you know?

    Hope your day gets better from here?
  17. the mombshell says:
    My whole life is this day. -sigh- Off to change my yoga pants, the booger to cloth ratio has been exceeded.
  18. I think what makes me even more irritable is that *I* get up with the kids while dh is still sleeping. And then, when he did get up, he left for a World Cup party and will be gone all day. *I* want to be able to do that.
  19. I feel you - I was up at the same time. & you're definitely not the only one that feels that way! Some days I just want to hand over the parenting duties to my hubby and go somewhere else. I hope your day gets better!
  20. DEATH to said husband!!! SHAME, SHAME!!!
  21. i just told my hubby that i *envy* him. he gets to eat in peace and on-time, he gets to sleep in, he has never washed his son's poop-covered tush. i also want peace and quiet.

    stopping by from SITS :)
  22. Ms. Understood says:
    I had to put up curtains because my dog would stick her nose through the blinds to look outside and bark (I literally had to stitch then ends of the curtains together so there would be no where for her to get through and look in the back yard. You are a sweet girl for not dumping all three babies on top of sleeping hubby and going outside to sit in peace - I would have. (((HUGS))) Everyone deserves a day off. Especially mommies. You don't get to leave you work at the office. I think you should go get a pedicure, enjoy the massage chair and relax.
  23. Oh, no ma'am! You are not alone and I won't hear any Mommy guilt nonsense about it! You're entitled to a little 'you time'. You'll be better for you and for them once you get it. Tell us what you do with your time - you are getting your time, right? Wake that man up! tehehe.
  24. Pumpkin and Piglet says:
    Oh Natalie, you are so not alone. I think pretty much every Mum has days like this, I know I do! I really hope your day is getting better and you got some silence!
  25. Mrs. Beer says:
    I feel you. I so feel you. Good for you for being honest you deserve to sulk about being overwhelmed, don't waste the little energy you have left on feeling guilty, either. There are definitely days when I want to run away. Actually, I feel that way a lot... I think women are intended, by nature, to have much more help than our American society dictates.

    On a side note, I want my dogs gone. I have no time and no extra patience for the barking or the growling at my toddler or cleaning the hair everywhere. I just came home to a pile of throw up in the middle of the couch because one of my dogs decided to down 43 of my daughters crayons. I'm thisclose from googling "animal shelters".
  26. Aging Mommy says:
    My day begins at 5:30am or thereabouts every morning as that is when my daughter has decided is a good time to start playing! My day was already almost four hours old by the time my husband decided to emerge this morning. Thankfully it had been a good morning but you are not alone, there are mornings where by 6:00am I am already longing for nap time and I only have one toddler, not three to deal with.

    Hope your day and weekend get better! Look forward to seeing what your new gig is all about!
  27. JDaniel4's Mom says:
    My day started this way too. I am so glad the afternoon is better.
  28. I completely understand where you're coming from. Sometimes I just want to hide in the bathroom with a bottle of wine and a good book.

    Bless you for having three!
  29. ALL moms have days like this and if they say they don't, well then they're LYING! Looking forward to your announcement!
  30. Nope, not alone! I don't have babies or diapers, but enough screaming, whining children to wanna pull my hair out... and curl up in a fetal position and cry. 2nd day of summer. Heaven help me.

    I loved Gigi's post too. I laughed out loud.
  31. Alyna @ Better Your Blog says:
    Wow. You'll hate me - I have a dog who likes to sleep in as much as I do and no kids...but I enjoyed your post so hopefully that redeems me a bit!

    Sounds like a craptastic morning! :( I hope you woke your hubby up and he helped out...A LOT!

    Anyway, Visiting from Nolie's Place (followed your comment) and off to read more of your blog!
  32. Alyna @ Better Your Blog says:
    P.S. Your "Subscribe to Posts" doesn't work in Chrome.
  33. Mommy Drinks Because You Cry says:
    Hello?!? Did you not read the job description when you signed on for the position? It says right there in BIG BOLD letters: NO BREAKS EVER!!!!
    Wait...Come to think of it, I don't think there was a job description. Come to think of it, I don't remember signing anything? Come to think of it, this job kinda sucks sometimes. Isn't there like a union or something I can join? Cause I'd like a little break now. Just 15 minutes or so would be nice.
    Ummm, your not a allowed to stop blogging. You post keep me sane!
  34. girl, we all have those days. and why the HECK is it that dads always get to sleep in???????? drives me bonkers!!!!!!! anywho. going back to read those blogging posts. i hope your day gets better. tweet, call, or whatever if you need a cyber-hug!!
  35. Karen Mortensen says:
    Sorry we don't live closer. I would babysit. I am not going to compain about my boring life any more.

    I can't wait to hear about your new game. I love those.
  36. Paul and Kerry says:
    Mine started at 6:15 but that is normal. But this is why there is wine, blogging and girlfriends. HUGS!!!
  37. lostinaseaofblogs says:
    I totally agree. I've been so grumpy lately. I just need some "me" time or something.
  38. You are definitely NOT the only one! I could so use a day of not being a mother...and then happily return to motherhood. What a dream!

    Can't wait to hear your news!
  39. Joann Mannix says:
    I love my Gigi girl. And blogging is universal in the joy and angst, it brings to all of us. A few weeks ago, I was contemplating giving it up and shockingly my hubs convinced me not to, telling me how proud he was of me and how hard I've worked to cultivate my own little blog network. Well, if he doesn't mind no dinner night after night, as I hunch over my computer, then, I'm all for it.

    I do have one little piece of comfort, if it helps. They get bigger. And one day, you'll wake up and realize they can feed themselves, entertain themselves, do just about everything themselves. I'm so grateful now, my girls are grocery shopping for me. Making dinner. Cleaning up, at least, when I scream loud enough. So, your day is coming. I know it seems far away, but it'll go faster than you'll ever know.
  40. Jessica Anne says:
    I'm right there with you. I want to take a vacation, all by myself, on a hammock, on an island, for a week after the last 4 days at Disneyland. Maybe tomorrow will be better, and less snotty.
  41. I definitely have days like this. I am actually taking Tuesday off just to lay in my bed. No joke.

    And about 30 minutes ago Alex was SCREAMING three foot from where David slept and after 3 min of screaming D did not wake up. I HATE that.
  42. Sorry to hear what a tough day you had, Natalie. We've all been there. As another blog, The Happiness Project, once posted, "the days are long, but the years are short." It's become one of my favorite quotes. When you're a mom of young ones, the days can be so long. But Joann is right...they get bigger, and easier in those sorts of ways (and harder in others). Hang in there. This too shall pass!

    And thank you so much for the lovely shout out to my post :)
  43. NanaDiana says:
    It always makes me smile to read about your daily life. I remember one time, after all 4 kids had gone to bed sitting in the bathtub and crying while eating M&M's (that were kept on the bathroom shelf for potty training) out of a floating plastic bowl! I was clean & warm & fed...and before the bath was over my life didn't look quite so desolate! >smile<
  44. MamaGord says:
    I know how you feel, really. My husband is deployed right now too so I don't have anyone to take over. I just remember "this too shall pass" Someday I will get to just relax and I will miss all the things I love about being a mom. Their smell, their smile, their laugh, wanting kisses only from mommy, hearing "Mommy I love you." I think it is totally normal to feel that way but it helps to think about all the good stuff when I just want to hide in the bathroom and cry or get jealous of my bachelor brother.
  45. WTH am I Doing? says:
    I totally know how you feel as well. I have many mornings that start out this way as well. I always chocked it up to me being terrible in the morning. I am all night owl & my son is a firmly scheduled morning person (he did not get those genes from me).

    There are some days that I tear up a bit thinking about how wonderful my kids are, etc, etc...and then there are other days that I tear up a bit thinking why the hell does my husband get to sleep till 9 or 10 on weekends while I get up with both of these little beasts....then I remember his 80-hour work week, & I suck it up a bit & send the kids outside while I search for where I left my sanity...
  46. SO TRUE!!As I write this it is 730PM and hopefully your day is going much better now that it is bed time :-) I know mine is
  47. Christine says:
    It's nice to know that other moms feel this way. All of a sudden my mellow, smiley toddler has turned into a monster screaming any time you take something away from him and throwing tantrums in public. I'm 32 weeks with #2 and I just don't want to be a mom sometimes either!

    I hope your day got better and hubby got out of bed to help :-)
  48. Maureen says:
    I thought I'm the only 'bad mommy' who feels like she needed a break! Sometimes I just want to curl back to sleep & called in sick from being a mommy just for one day hahaha. Hope you will have a relaxing weekend though.
  49. Katie's Dailies says:
    If it makes you feel any better, kids DO grow up and sleep till at LEAST 9:30 in the morning... but of course, by now, I'm so used to getting up before they do, it's really kind of a waste... sigh...

    And my husband still sleeps later than me.
  50. Drama queens mum (Kimberly) says:
    Oh yes. I feel like this a lot. I have so many projects that need to get done (scrapbook pages added to books, recipes filled away in folders, books I'd love to read), but no time to do them. It's good to have time alone & away from the kids. It helps you recharge. I try to have a little alone time each week & have my hubby watch my daughter for a while, but it's never enough time to get things done.
  51. ♥Cari♥ says:
    You are SOOO not alone in this. Any mom who says they have never felt this way is lying. No offense. It's true though. There are some days where you just want to pack up and go away for a little while, even if it's only a few hours. (((HUGS)))
  52. Allyson & Jere says:
    Somehow I missed this the first itme around. But all i can say is....I SOOOO feel your pain. I feel it all the time girl! And really, when days start out like that it's the worst! Glad it turned out ok.
  53. Lula Lola says:
    I have to wake up before the kids. Otherwise, it just makes me crazy. If they wake me up, it feels like I totally got off on the wrong foot.
    I hope your husband jumped right in and made sure you got a good break. Sometimes, the amount of work it takes to mother just seems endless. No regard for bathroom breaks or sleep!
    Hang in there, it does get easier(physically, anyway).
  54. Arizona Mamma says:
    Me. Today. Completely at the end of my frayed rope.
  55. Heather says:
    Is it bad that I have one of these days every week?
  56. MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) says:
    Oh, I can't even allow myself to think about this too much! I had a near melt-down last week...I started reading a really yummy book. I took just 5 minutes to sneak in a couple of pages (in the bathroom [sorry for the visual]). And then it hit me...I just wanted to keep reading! And is that too much to ask? I'm not asking for a $1000 day at the spa, I just want to finish this chapter! But, alas, duty (and doodie) calls... :)


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