Goodbye, My Friend (A Letter)

We all know how hard it is to end a friendship, especially one that has been strong for a long time. We grow apart, we change, we have different needs and wants sometimes, and that’s all part of life. I understand this, I get it…but it’s still so hard and sad to just cut such a big part of your life completely out.

I want to share a letter I recently wrote…I think that it needed to be written. I just wasn’t ready for our friendship to end so abruptly; without warning. So if I sound sad and maybe even hostile, it’s because I’m hurt.

My Dearest Friend,
I know that you know how much you mean to me. I probably tell you more than I tell anybody else. I’m always honest about how much I love and respect you…how much better my life is because you are part of it. But I feel like you’ve been pushing me away without even considering my feelings. I know we’ve grown apart in the last few months – I’ve been seeing less and less of you. But it’s so hard to let go of this friendship.

You were always there for me. You were the one I looked forward to seeing everyday. You knew everything about me, and understood how much I needed you. On the days when the kids were pushing me over me line of sanity, you’d step in and help out. I will never be able to thank you enough for all that you’ve given me…both support and time to myself when I needed it.

But a few months ago, you stopped coming around as often. Some days I’d see you and express how grateful I was that you were back. Other days you’d blow me off like I wasn’t important. Even though you knew how much I needed you, you shunned me. I prayed that we could fix our relationship, that things could go back to the way they were. It was obvious you didn’t feel the same, and I’m sorry for that.

I’ll never forget you, not ever. I know there will still be days when I need your comfort and security and you’re not going to be here. I’ll long for you. I might even cry for the loss of you. You were such an amazing part of my life, and not a part I want to let go of.

If things can change…if there’s anything I can do, please say it. Tell me. I’ll do anything. Your leaving was not a Christmas present I wanted to find under the tree. Couldn’t you have at least waited for the New Year so we could celebrate our family and friendship? I just needed you a little longer to get me through the holidays. I hate that you’re leaving me, and I will miss you beyond words. My heart is hurting, and I wish you would fix it.

Second Nap of the Day, I will always, ALWAYS hold a special place in my heart for you. You, dear friend, will be missed more than I will ever be able to express. Please share these words with First Nap of the Day. I can’t even think of what it will be like to lose it, too.

With Love,

Did I have you fooled? Or did you see where this was going? Either way, I hope you enjoyed it…it sure was fun to write! And every, single, solitary word is the honest to God truth!

And so it goes…

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I wrote this post for Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop in response to Prompts #1: A Christmas gift that was not well received.


  1. Okay, I have to admit, I knew you weren't talking about a person. I thought maybe that third glass of wine? ;)
  2. jumpedoffabridge says:
    Hahaha!!! That was TOO much! You almost had me crying, until I was like, "Wait... what??"
    And then I thought... the twins JUST stopped taking their second nap? LUCKY! My 20 month old hasn't taken a second nap since her 1st birthday!
  3. By Word of Mouth says:
    Oh, I remember those days .... the morning and the afternoon, then the long one just in the middle ... we were renovating a house and I drove around and around. Usually ending up at a drive thro, reading a book, eating fries with a sleeping toddler!
  4. Megan (Best of Fates) says:
    You totally had me fooled - I was actually quite sad! And now I feel like a patsy. Fooled by a dame again.
  5. KristeenieB says:
    Oh how I miss the two nap days! Mine left a long long time ago. Some how I won a non sleeper, I'm not really sure how because I love nothing more than sleep!
    I am so sorry that you have lost this little piece of happy!
  6. Oh, Natalie, I am grieving the same loss. We began officially napping just once a day this week and I am oh so very sad about the loss.

    I echo this line: "If things can change...if there's anything I can do, please say it. Tell me. I'll do anything."

    I would do anything...anything!!!

    Great post!
  7. Allyson & Jere says:
    I knew it was going somewhere funny, but i didn't see the nap thing coming. Way to write a heartfelt goodbye. It really is a TRAGEDY when 2nd nap leaves. BOO! Good luck friend, good luck.
  8. Good one....I was fooled. I was thinking that would have been a hard letter to write to a friend you loved and lossed. Ha! Any whos, I am so not looking to the day when I lose "that friend" :( Naps dwindle down....please tell me you are lying *fingers crossed*
  9. HA HA!! Awesome!!
  10. Sadly, I said goodbye to that friend myself about a year ago. :-(
  11. You had me fooled! LOL

    My oldest napped until he started kindergarten. My youngest only naps at daycare. He doesn't nap on the weekends. It KILLS me. Especially since he gave those up when he was only 2 years old!
  12. LOL Gotta admit, You had me going for a few. Maybe because I'm such a new follower. But, it was hilarious and I was laughing hysterically hehe
  13. Lori @ In Pursuit of Martha Points says:
    Hee! Maybe cause it's barely seven in the morning, but you totally had me going.

    Nicely done, sneaky you.
  14. I had a sneaking suspicion about where you were headed.
  15. WTH am I Doing? says:
    Gah. Hook. Line. Sinker.

    I feel for you. We're in the zone where the *only* nap isn't happening much anymore. Now? It is called "quiet time." Even if they don't nap? They are banished to their rooms to be quiet while mommy & daddy try to retain our "sanity."
  16. Nap time is something sacred, I tell ya! But I can't complain cuz Kate is 5 and still naps.
  17. Oh my gosh! You sneaky devil, you! Well done! And, I feel your pain! :)
  18. If I'm leaving two comments I'm sorryl I seem to be having trouble commenting today.

    I enjoyed your letter. I knew you were going somewhwere with it but it totally wasn't where I thought!

    Stopping by from Mama Kat's.
  19. Well, I guess I should write a "Hello!" letter to mine because I'm at the other end of life's journey and find I do need a nap by early afternoon, again... What a wonderful way to say goodbye to a faithful friend, though. You are just too cool. Happy Holidays! Come visit when you can!
  20. Good one! You had me. I had no idea where you were going with this. But, guess what. It won't be long until another 'friend' enters your life. School Days.
  21. Mothers' Hideaway says:
    I just lost all of my naps. I'm not happy and I'm mourning their loss.
  22. If SHE can figure it out.......... says:
    Oh Baby E is down to one nap now, too. I not only mourned the loss of 2nd nap, I actually TRIED to force it to come back. But alas, it's not meant to be. Thank GOD first nap is a long one (at least for now)....
  23. Laurie Wallin says:
    You totally got me! I'm right there with jumpedoffabridge. Very very cute take on that idea, my dear. I'm currently grieving the loss of first nap every few days. It will be a sad day indeed when my last child stops napping. I think I'll feel really old. Especially because I'm so tired!
  24. You are too good.

    And yes, losing that second nap is awful but losing them all together is much much worse.
  25. Cuz I'm the mama! says:
    This is a tough transition. We made the drop a few months ago and we still struggle. Mainly in part to Ms. R only wanting ONE 45 minute nap most days. So hard!! Ms. K seems to have worked it out. She'll nap 2.5-3.5 hours almsot every day. Love that kid.
  26. OK, you had me for a while....until I started to see that this relationship seemed so one-sided! I remember mourning the loss of that second nap, and it was gone way earlier with the second kid than the first.

    After New Years? Would have been much kinder.
  27. OMG! You SO had me fooled! I know how you feel when you loose that 2nd nap of the day. Gosh, I'm dreading losing the only nap of the day! She's 2.5 years and still napping 2 hours a day. I think I'm going to die when she's up all day. No more breaks for me. So for now, I'm enjoying every minute of it.

    Great post! Loved your approach ...
  28. Can't wait to read your letter when the FIRST NAP goes bye-bye!!! (You TOTALLY HAD ME! I'm totally gullible and would really buy the swamp land for sale in Florida, too!)

    Adios Nap #2!!!
  29. The Drama Mama says:
    You did fool me. I am luckily still visited by First nap enough to keep me happy. But, First Nap also introduced me to Early Bedtime to break me in. ;)
  30. alittlebarefoot says:
    not fooled, per se, but I just wanted to let you know that I think I could have written every word of this post myself. ahhh the days of two solid naps...
  31. You totally had me fooled and my heart rate elevated. Good one, smart lady.
  32. John and Allie Fields says:
    I was feeling all sorry for you! Ok, still am because I know what it's like! We are all napless here now.
  33. Hahaha! You totally had me fooled!! It's true though, the sacred nap times!! The best part is getting the kids to nap at the same time:) Now I only have two left that nap, the other six do not....yikes! Still, I think even they look forward to the nap. It is still their quiet time too.
  34. HAHAHAHA I loved this!!! I'm going to cry a river when 3 hour nap leaves my house! Great post.
  35. Minivan Mama says:
    I'd actually like my friend 5:30 wake up to go away.
  36. hahaha. I actually kind of thought you were saying goodbye to your former single-pre-baby self! But this was a great twist. I love naptime. I countdown to it. It's like my own personal indulgence every single day!
  37. You so got me good.

    Why can't we all have a second nap? Hell, I'd take A nap!
  38. MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) says:
    I knew you were up to something, but I didn't quite know what until the end...brilliant! :)

    Our girls dropped their second nap at about 18 months. (I held on as long as I could!) Once we got the bugs worked out, figuring out exactly when to eat and snack and go down for that one, glorious nap, it's actually a good schedule.

    Hope it's a smooth transition for you! (Oh, and for your girls, of course...HA!)
  39. OH. MAH...I am dying laughing and waving my fist begrudginly in the air while shouting "You little shit" all at the same time.
    This is fantastic.
    Thanks for the giggle
  40. You got me! I was going to say this is a letter I need to know what I'm talking about!

    Anyway, you can take solace in the knowledge that these naps will return when you yourself get older!
  41. I love this!! SO clever. I am still mourning that AM nap.
  42. TornadoTwos says:
    LOL, this is great! I hate it when the kiddos give up naps, it's what gets me through my day. When you have toddlers running around all crazy and getting into everything, we really need that time to just breathe. My youngest is down to 1 nap too, but I'm really lucky that he usually takes a pretty long one- 2+ hours, once in awhile 3. Sweet!
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