Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Sometimes friendships have ended because of something I’ve said or done. Sometimes friendships have ended, and are then resurrected. I’ve had friendships end amicably, badly, because we just grew apart, and unfortunately, a couple because of a death.
Friendships, no matter what the circumstances are for why they end, are always hard to say goodbye to. People that were important to you in the past, always hold a place in your heart.
On Thursday, I will be attending the funeral of a friend of mine, Jason. Jason was a friend for a season – we went to high school together and became very good friends. He was there to hang out, kept my secrets, was there to keep me company when my boyfriends were being jerks, and to take me to Angels baseball games in the summer. At the time, I couldn’t imagine not talking to him everyday. He liked me for who I was, and never, ever tried to be anything more than my friend.
Time goes on, people change, relationships change. After high school, though nothing ever happened between us, we just grew apart. I had a boyfriend, went to community college and worked. He went to college, eye on the goal of getting his degree. We said we’d stay in touch…we tried. But life goes on.
Through the years, I’ve kept up with what’s going on in his life through friends, we were friends on Facebook, and commented on pictures of each other’s kids. Though no longer friends in the everyday sense, and we hadn’t been since high school, he was still important to me a lifetime ago and I never considered him not a friend.
Last week, he was struck by another car and killed. He was 37. He leaves behind 3 young daughters and a wife. He was a good person. He also leaves behind many friends, and though I haven’t talked to him or seen him in years, I will miss him.
These are the times when you tell yourself not to take people who are important to you for granted. To call an old friend out of the blue to say hello. To make time to see a friend that you always tell “let’s get together soon”. These are the times when you hug your children a little tighter, and kiss your spouse a little longer. These are the times when you remind yourself how precious life is and how it can be gone in the blink of an eye.
The fact that I haven’t talked to him in years does not make my grief any less real. It doesn’t hurt any less. The season of our friendship and his life has passed, but the memories will never be forgotten.
You will be missed, Jason.