Listen To Your Gut: It Always Seems To Be Right

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Have you ever gotten that nagging feeling that continues to tell you to reach out to a friend? Do you listen to it? I did last week, and I’m glad I did.

I almost didn’t reach out to my friend because I hadn’t talked to her in months, and thought she was probably thinking I was a bad friend. But hell, I thought, I haven’t talked to some of my family in that long and it doesn’t make them love me any less.

I kept thinking I need to reach out to her, text her, call her, send her a Facebook message. I’m on the computer and phone all the time so I really have no excuse for not doing it. But that nagging feeling – my gut – kept popping into my head throughout the day saying to reach out to her.

Finally on Thursday of last week, I sent her a text. I just told her I was thinking about her and hoped that she was doing good. She responded that she was, and after a few more texts back and forth, she told me she was going through chemo.

And that people, is why you should listen to your gut. It was like I knew something was up and that I needed her to know I was thinking about her. I know that I can’t fix or change her situation, or do anything about it. And to be honest, the last thing she would want is sympathy or for me to act as her fixer.

But when things are really shitty, sometimes just knowing that your friends are thinking of you is more than enough. That’s what connects us to people. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t talked to a friend in a few day, few months, or even a few years. I know I have never been angry to hear from a friend out of the blue just to say hello and that they were thinking of me. That’s what friendship is all about, right?

Sometimes your gut is trying to put things into perspective for you. The most important things in the world are the people you choose to surround yourself with…your family and friends. I love that picture at the beginning of this post because it is so true. Friends do become your family, and I feel like my gut was trying to remind how important my friends are to me…even if I’ve been neglecting the friendships.

So if you have had that feeling, that nagging voice in your head telling you to just reach out to someone and say hello, do it. If you do? Then you will make a friend’s day and catch up with them. The line of communication reopens. But if you don’t, you might end up regretting it.

Comments

  1. I love this, Natalie, because I’ve been thinking the same about some friends I haven’t talked to in a while. A couple of weeks ago, I kept thinking I need to touch base with a close friend, and things kept getting in the way/ I kept putting it off. Then I received an email from her. It was like we thought of each other at the exact same time, and it was awesome.

    I’m so sorry your friend is undergoing chemo – many well wishes to her.
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  2. I’m not a good friend either. I’m horrible at keeping in touch with people and following through, and I’m not always good at listing to my instincts either. I’m glad you called your friend and connect with her.
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  3. Absolutely true! Thanks for reminding me.
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  4. Totally agree- its’ so important to reach out. And I get how things get busy and time passes- I never hold it against someone else, so I figure maybe they won’t hold it against me either and I should reach out even if lots of time has passed.
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  5. Thank you for this reminder. I have been having that nagging feeling about an old friend, and this was just the kick in the backside I needed to listen to it.
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  6. WOW. Just wow. I love this post. I love this message. SO true!! And what a way to confirm this for you- bless your friend’s heart. Ugh. Thank you for reminding us of what is truly important. Always listen to your gut!!!!

    SO glad to meet you!!! Visiting from PYHO!! Followed you everywhere!!! XO
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  7. Such a great reminder that we need to keep in contact with our friends and that you just never know what they may be experiencing and too scared, worried, or busy to pick up the phone instead.
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  8. So true! I have had that feeling many times and I am always glad when I reach out. Life is busy but taking the time to keep in touch every so often is really worth it isn’t it?
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