Do We Separate Them or Leave Them Together – Part 2

Okay, so last week I mentioned that we have been thinking about giving the twins their own rooms, but why I don’t want to do it. It’s not because I am worried about splitting them up, it’s because I’m lazy and don’t want to clean.

Anyways, I started thinking that when we put them in toddler beds, there will still be enough room to keep them together. But when we start putting them in regular beds? We’re gonna have to move them to separate rooms because there’s no way to beds will fit in their room.

Unless we consider bunk beds. And I’ve been thinking of getting a bunk bed with futon instead of just getting them traditional bunk beds. It would be kind of cool to have a futon/couch for them to watch TV and stuff on. Wouldn’t have to worry about buying a bunk bed mattress for two beds. But I also don’t want to look at cheap bunk beds for kids. If we get them bunk beds, I want nice ones (and in this case, nice = expensive).

twin babies sleeping together So I’m once again left wondering if we should move them. They used to sleep like this, all cute and snuggled together. But not anymore! Now they’d beat each other up and never sleep.

As much as I hate to say it, I think it might be time. Sigh. I’m not sure I’m ready for this…all that cleaning? Yuck! But on the other hand, peaceful sleep? Then on the other hand, would their schedules get too out of whack and I’d end up never getting two hours of alone time to screw around on the computer to clean and get housework done?

I just don’t know what to do…

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  1. We've been there!! The boys are now three and we tried all kinds of things {including the super nanny technique where you spend HOURS in their room quietly, with no eye contact or words and just put them back in bed} Who has that kind of time!?!?! So now this is what we do: we put them to bed together and tuck them in, read them a story yada yada and tell them that if they get out of bed they will be separated. EVERY night they need to be separated and we put one of the boys in our bed to fall asleep. Then when we go to bed we transfer him into their shared room. We too have a small room that won't really fit two single beds. We also have a window and a bulletin board that would be obstructed by a bunkbed {and really they are too young for a bunk bed yet} so we built them toddler beds. Seriously really easy and a quick fix until they're six {we hope}. You can find the tute on my blog under pirate ship room. Good Luck!
  2. I look forward to seeing what you decided and what makes you come to your final dicission. Right now I just could not imagine my twins in seperate beds no less seperate rooms! But I know that day is coming and stories like yours will defently be a big help. Thank you for writing about your life as you learn and grow along with your little ones. : )
  3. If you have the space to separate them I would do it. As much as I wanted mine to stay in the same room, once we put them in toddler beds I wished that we had the space to put them in different rooms. It is like a sleepover in there every night. I have one that gets up 10 million times and drives the other one nuts and the other one wants her sleep and is a CRAB because she's not getting it. I love that mine are so close too but ultimately separate rooms would mean more sleep for everyone! Thanks for the link!
  4. Wow. I don't know. The only thing I can think is if you're going to separate them at some point while they're little, is it better to do sooner and just get it over with? Will the transition be easier on them now rather than when they are four or five? Seriously, no idea what the answer is. That was my only thought. Except that the picture of them sleeping all cuddled up is beyond precious.
  5. I don't have twins. But my youngest two are 16 months apart so they are insanely close. In my humble opinion, if you have the space do it now. I think that sometimes twins are treated as a single unit and the more you can show them indiviuality the better they will be in the long run. Did I mention I don't have twins?
  6. I will answer this from a twin's perspective since I am an identical twin. I always shared a room with my sister. There was no other option but boy I wish there had been! I do not recall the early years but I think around the age of 8 and definitely when we were teenagers, life would have been more peaceful for everyone if we had our own space. Perhaps this was a compound issue for us since we had to share everything and resented it. We shared a room, clothes, birthday cake, toys, a soft drink if we were out shopping all while our 1 year and two week older brother got his own everything. Still a sore spot for me. We fought so hard for our own identity and recognition so to have my own space would have been delightful.
  7. I am no help, since I only have one kid. But I just wanted to butt in here for a minute and tell you that picture is ADORABLE.
  8. Most of the twins I knew growing up were giving separate rooms so they could establish their own identify. They never lose the 'twinspeak' and will always be close, but I think it's important for them to feel that they can function on their own and are not cookies. Lordy, that picture is cute!


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