Well, it’s time for the last Mommy Moment at the Monster of the year…but it’s not a Mommy Moment…it’s a Daddy Moment! If you’re not sure what a Mommy (or Daddy) Moment at the Monster is, head over and read all about how Mommy Moments at the Monster came to be.
Today, I’m so excited to welcome Craig, AKA Booyah Dad on Twitter. Craig is funny, supportive, Daddy to two beautiful little ones, and husband of a dear friend Nichole (in these small moments).
Go grab a cup of coffee and a donut, ahem, I mean a low-fat muffin, or depending on the time of the day maybe some wine and chocolate, and sit back and enjoy the story!
First and foremost, I want to thank Natalie for welcoming me onto her site and letting me share some of “my style” with her loyal readers. I’ve only had one other guest post before, which was on my wife’s site in in these small moments.
But Natalie was one of my first friends as I entered the crazy world of Twitter and has always been very kind and warm. I still remember how disappointed she was that she was out of town and couldn’t help me reach my first milestone of 100 followers. But she’s been there ever since, so thank you Natalie!
I am blessed with two wonderful children: Katie, who is 4 ½, and Matthew, who is 2. But as I reflect back on my experiences of being a father, I can’t help but go back to some of those early days when I first realized I was even going to be a father…and how truly terrified I was about what was undoubtedly before me.
You see, my wife had been a nanny for years and seemed to be a walking encyclopedia about all things babies. And while that comforted me, I on the other hand, was awkward around babies and wondered how I would manage my own?!?
Of course, when my daughter graced our lives, I quickly learned the myth that it will all come naturally wasn’t such a myth at all. I very adeptly settled into my role and embraced everything I could about being the best daddy possible. But that’s not to say it didn’t come with a few challenges along the way!
When Katie was just a week or two old, she had the natural challenges with a developing intestinal system and struggled with some early gas. But all the recommended remedies didn’t seem to be working? She cried in pain and we couldn’t seem to help her. Even my wife was stumped and in a panic ran to the drugstore to get a different brand of relief.
After I got over the initial panic that she was leaving me alone with our newborn daughter for even twenty minutes, I kept consoling Katie and doing whatever I could to make her comfortable. I thought I’d check her diaper once again and as I gently removed the straps, her moaning stopped immediately.
“Um, Daddy? You had my diaper on WAY too tight!!”
This one I can still thankfully laugh about to this day. Mainly because Katie was okay, but it certainly reminded me that I needed to get my priorities straight in terms of protecting my daughter over capturing that moment for posterity purposes.
I guess I really did have her back! But um, #anotherlessonlearned
But in the end, I guess it’s a testament to our adaptive nature as human beings. I gain more confidence every day as a father and yet I humbly acknowledge that I’ll have a lifetime of being tested. But do I panic when my wife leaves the kids with me? Not in the slightest! I welcome the special bonding time with the kids and am happy that she’s getting a break. Do I think I have all the answers?
Not. Even. Close.
But I realize that nobody does and it makes me feel good when even my wife relies upon my expertise. Do I make mistakes? Every single day, but I strive to learn from those mistakes and reflect upon how I can handle the situation differently the next time.
I truly cherish being a father. Nothing warms my heart each and every day more than when I open the door and am the recipient of sheer joy from my children. It makes me realize that to them I am not perfect; to them I make mistakes; to them they wish I did things differently at times.
But to them? I am their daddy…..and they love me and make me feel so very important. And for that? I am eternally grateful to them for the gift they have given me…..
Thank you for sharing this Craig because this is EXACTLY what sharing these moments is all about. None of us have all the answers and all of us can use as much support as we can possibly get! And all of those mistakes that we make along the way will give us the knowledge to pass along when our children have kids some day!
There’s no manual out there for what we do, so sharing stories like this helps us all learn from each other.
Now head over to Twitter and say hello to Booyah Dad and if you are a new follower, make sure to tell Craig that I sent you!
And don’t forget to link up your favorite posts of 2011 in my Best Of 2011 link up!