Do You Tell Your Spouse Everything?

Think about your best friends. The friends that you trust implicitly. The friends that you can say anything to without fear of judgement or disapproval. If you told them you were going to rob a bank, they would definitely try to talk you out of it, but they would listen and try to understand. They probably wouldn’t call the police unless you went through with it and then they would, but you already know that because these friends are your moral compass. We all have these friends. They are a necessity to maintaing sanity and a deep part of who you are. These friends know our deepest, darkest, ugliest secrets and we don’t even have to preface those secrets with a “Please don’t tell anybody”.

But when sharing secrets with them, do you even consider whether or not they are going to share these secrets with their spouses? I guess I never consider that. I assume (yes, I know what happens when I assume) that when I share a secret with them that they will guard it with their lives and not tell anybody…spouses included. Interesting enough, that is not always the case.

Do you tell your spouse everything? Secrets between friends shouldn't be expected to be shared with anybody, but does that also include spouses? Some women share everything with their spouses while others do not. Do you know if your friends share with their spouses?

Do You Tell Your Spouse Everything?

I was recently involved in a super secret conversation with a group of the friends I just described. One of my friends was talking about a situation she was in with another friend (that none of us knew). My friend’s friend had shared a secret with her that my friend shared with her spouse. When my friend’s friend found out, she got extremely upset and couldn’t believe my friend had told her spouse.

My friend, and many of my other friends involved in this conversation, tell their spouse everything. EVERYTHING. One of them said “no secrets between spouses”.

I do not tell my husband everything. Little secrets that aren’t really significant (ones that aren’t life altering) I might share with him and nobody else. And then there are the secrets that friends have trusted me with that have and will always remain secrets. Big ones. Life changing ones. Those secrets I keep. They aren’t mine to share, and they don’t affect us directly, so I don’t share them.

Being responsible for a secret…especially a big one…can become a very heavy weight that you carry around. Not being able to talk about it with anybody else makes the load even heavier. I can totally understand why some of my friends share the secrets with their spouses. It gives them the ability to be able to talk about the situation with another person that they trust with everything. I get that.

On the flip side, I see it as then your spouse is carrying around the weight of the secret too. And because the secrets aren’t mine, I don’t want him to have one more thing to worry about on his plate. If it’s not affecting either of us, I keep it to myself. There’s even been times that he has started telling me a secret to which I reply “Nope. Don’t tell me. I don’t want to know”.

If I know a friend tells her spouse everything, will I stop sharing my secrets with her? No. I need those friends and I still trust them implicitly. BUT, I may be more selective with the secrets that I do share.

There’s always two sides to every coin and different ways of looking at things. Every relationship is different. What works for some doesn’t work for others. I’m sure that a few of my friends in that conversation were just as surprised to find out that I don’t tell my husband everything as I was to find out that they do tell their husbands everything.

So I’m wondering – do you tell your spouse everything?

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The Craziness That Is My Life (And The Crazy Hasn’t Even Started Yet!)

I haven’t blogged in 3 weeks or so. Why? Well other than the kids being out of school (they go next week…YAY!) we decided that remodeling the kitchen would be a good idea.

We’d been considering it for 2 years or so. We did lots of research. We have been living on Houzz. We got bids and quotes and spent hours at Home Depot and Lowe’s and design centers.

It was all supposed to be coming together. But now we are on hold until the cabinets (which should have been here weeks ago) are finished and ready to be installed. And then we have to be put on the shcedule, which could mean another couple of weeks of waiting.

So this is how we’ve been living because we kind of jumped the gun on getting ready for the install…
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Half of my kitchen is now in my office, the microwave is sitting on the counter, and I have no upper cabinets which it turns out is a real pain.

Not only did we decide to remodel our kitchen, we also decided that we needed to repaint downstairs, get new flooring, and new kitchen appliances.

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Here’s my new kitchen…it’s sitting in my formal living room and has been for a couple of months.

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And since entirely remodeling a kitchen and most of downstairs, why not throw a bathroom in the mix? The bathroom’s covered with marker marks where we want certain things to be. There’s also a ton of tile and decorative tile samples laying around. Potential new paint colors are hiding behind the door.

paintSo now let’s talk paint. See these pictures? Almost every wall downstairs, and a lot of the ceiling, is covered in 50 shades of gray. Well, probably more like 5 or 6 shades, but still. That’s after purchasing 10 plus samples of paint and then covering up the ones we hated. Not to mention the million paint chips (really not much of an exaggeration) that were hanging everywhere.

Since we are getting white kitchen cabinets we are having all of the dark-stained crown molding and our entertainment center restained to white. Lots of white. So we though we’d go with a darker, neutral paint color for the walls, and Jason really wants the ceiling painted too. We decided on gray.

Now you might think it would be easy to walk into the paint store and say, “Hey, give me gray paint please.” Turns out, that’s not even close to how it goes. There are blue grays and brown grays and white grays and green grays. The only thing you can’t find is gray grays.

And because we have varying amounts of light coming differently in every room in the house, we had to paint in each room to make sure the color looked good in different lights. Surprisingly, a color we liked in one room we hated in another. Or a color that looked gray in one room looked brownish or bluish another. Gray is a nightmare.

Knocking on wood, I think we finally found the colors we plan to paint with. We finally found a really, really dark gray that we loved and had the paint store make the color 75% lighter and then 88% lighter than the too-dark color. And to make sure the colors were right, we went so far as to spray paint our crown molding to make sure that the grays we liked actually looked good next to white.

Yesterday I was complaining to Jason white a pain in the ass it is to have the kitchen ripped apart and how remodeling sucks. He reminded me that the remodel hadn’t even really started yet, and wait until they start ripping out the rest of the cabinets and can’t use the kitchen for 3 weeks.

So while I think living this way is crazy, the craziness hasn’t even started yet. Please send wine.

Juicing Recipes: Jay’s (Almost) Famous Fruit Juice

A few years back, Jason and I sat down and watched a movie called Fat Sick and Nearly Dead. It’s about a man named Joe Cross who was unhealthy and miserable. He decided to reclaim his own health by trading in junk food and vowing only to drink fresh fruit and vegetable juice for 60 days. Basically he came up with all of these juicing recipes and lived on them, which I’m pretty sure I could do too.

The movie was eye-opening and inspiring, and if you haven’t seen it I think it’s worth the watch.

Anyways…since seeing the movie, we bought a juicer and initially started juicing Joe’s Mean Green Juice, which we still both love.

Since then, we have tried several other juicing recipes and even created some of our own. One of our favorites is Jason’s fruit juice recipe. Anytime we feel yucky or want to drop a few pounds we whip up a big batch of this juice and drink it a couple of times a day. Right now, Jason is fighting off a sore throat and drinking all of those nutrients and vitamins really helps. And it tastes really, really good!

So I thought I’d share Jay’s (almost) famous juicing recipe with you. Like all of my recipes, you can tweak it to suit your family’s tastes, half the recipe, or double it. It takes a little prep work to get the fruits all ready to juice, but it’s worth it.

We use the Jack LaLanne Power Juicer and it works just fine for us. Sure I’d like one of the uber expensive ones, but this one was less than $100 and does everything we need it to do.

 

Juicing Recipes: Jay’s (Almost) Famous Fruit Juice

This juicing recipe is full of apples, oranges, watermelon, pineapple, &more! It's so good the kids ask for it daily. Also includes other juicing recipes.

Juicing Recipes: Jay's (Almost) Famous Fruit Juice

Your measurements don't have to be exact! A little more or a little less of any of these fruits will not make a difference.

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Ingredients

  • 1 "personal size" watermelon (or just get a small one), rind removed. Check out this easy way to cut up watermelon.
  • 1 honeydew, rind removed
  • 2 red apples, seeds removed and quartered
  • 2 green apples, seeds removed and quartered
  • 4 oranges, peeled and halved
  • 1 pint strawberries, stems removed
  • 1 20 ounce can of unsweetened pineapple chunks

Instructions

  1. Wash all your produce well.
  2. Cut up all of the fruit so that it will fit into the mouth of your juicer.
  3. Juice it all!
  4. Pour over ice and enjoy! You can also blend up the juice with some ice to make it a smoothie.
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I just purchased this 101 Juice Recipes cookbook from Amazon. It’s got some great juicing recipes that I can’t wait to try! And I’m always looking for new juicing recipes, so if you have one, please share!

One Of My Favorite Sounds: Waves

Long, long ago my friend Cameron asked me to guest post at her place. She asked me to write about something I loved about the beach. And so I did. Here’s the original guest post about one of my favorite things in the world: waves.

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Waves

originally posted at Cameron D. Garriepy, July 2010

I absolutely adore everything there is to adore about the beach. The waves. The smell. The feel of the wind and salt on my skin. The sand in my toes and how it leaves a light, fine dust on everything. The thing I love the most about the beach is listening to it. Do you know what I mean? Laying in the sand, burying my toes into its warmth, and just closing my eyes. Listening to the kids playing at the shore line. Listening to the sand crunch as people walk by. The birds circling above, calling to each other…or whatever it is that birds make noise about.

And of course my favorite sound to listen to is the waves. I could listen to waves crashing 24/7 and never get tired of hearing it. Whether they are gently breaking along the shore, or angrily crashing away on rocks, I can’t think of a more calming sound.

When I was pregnant with my son (who is almost three now), I had a hard time falling to sleep. So I used to put my iPod on and listen to a recording of waves from a CD my sister gave to me. Before the second set of waves began, I would always fall asleep.

My husband and I used to travel a bit, and so the sound of waves always reminds me of being on vacation. Of being carefree. Of being lazy and relaxed. Of no real responsibility. Of sleeping in and staying up late. Of sleeping throughout the night, uninterrupted. These things are a thing of the past now that we have kids!

Waves remind me of a trip to Fiji that we took in 2004. We were on a small resort island. Our bure (it’s like a little hut) sat on stilts overlooking the beach. The entire bure had walls of windows, that went from the ceiling to the floor. We left those windows open the entire time we were there. So we awoke and fell asleep to the sound of the ocean every morning and night. It was heaven!

Every meal took place in the main dining area…a huge bure that also sat on stilts directly above the water. It had all these private, secluded decks so that each couple could have their meals privately if they chose not to eat in the main dining bure. And so we even shared our meals with the waves.

My husband and I scuba dive (or, more accurately, we used to scuba dive). Do you know that you can hear the waves and ocean moving under the water? It’s the most peaceful sound! I don’t even know how to describe it other than it sounds like waves breaking on the shore, but in slow motion.

I really love everything there is to love about the beach and the ocean, but by far, my favorite thing is and forever will be the sound of the waves.

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The GM Diet (General Motors Diet): Does It Work?

I don’t know if I should love or curse Pinterest for this pin I stumbled across for the GM diet. Have you heard about the GM diet? It’s a week long diet/cleanse based on eating only fruits, veggies, and a vegetable soup for rapid weight loss. Eating all the fruits and veggies I want for 7 days with the goal of losing 10 or more pounds? I’m in.

Though I must apologize in advance because this post is going to be really long due to the amount of information there is to share about the GM diet.

The GM diet, was supposedly designed by General Motors for their employees and dependents to facilitate its health and fitness program. Supposedly. From what I’ve read, the GM diet is not endorsed by the General Motors Company. I can find lots of research to say that, but not much “official” research to say that GM claims the GM diet.

Anyways. I showed the GM diet plan to Jason, and because he knows I have zero willpower, he said he would do the GM diet with me. We started the day after Super Bowl. I thought I could do anything for 7 days; I was wrong.

Have you heard of the GM diet (General Motors diet)? Over 7 days, you could lose 10-17 lbs. on this diet/cleanse. Does it work? One blogger shares results. photo source

Does the GM Diet Work?

I wouldn’t know because I was ready to gnaw my arm off on Morning 3 and didn’t make it. On the other hand, Jason did make it through the entire week.

Did the GM diet work for him? Yep, it sure did…but not without some side effects.

Here is his daily weight:

Day 1: 200.8 pounds

Day 2: 197.7 pounds

Day 3: 195.7 pounds

Day 4: 193.5 pounds

Day 5: 191.3 pounds

Day 6: 190.0 pounds

Day 7: 189.1 pounds

Jason lost 11.7 pounds in just 7 days. However he was extremely tired, lethargic, no energy, grouchy, and generally hungry. He did it for me…and he wanted to know if it would really work so I could share all of this on my blog.

The GM diet didn’t work for me, and it may not be for everyone, but based on what happened with Jason and some of the other reviews I’ve read, people are promoting the GM diet.

For those of you interested, here is the GM Diet plan.

The GM Diet 7-Day Plan

Have you heard of the GM diet (General Motors diet)? Over 7 days, you could lose 10-17 lbs. on this diet/cleanse. Does it work? One blogger shares results.The GM diet is designed to flush your system of impurities and give you a feeling of well being. After seven days you will begin to feel lighter by atleast 10 pounds. You will have an abundance of energy and an improved disposition.

During the first seven days you must drink 10 glasses of water each day. You must abstain from all alcohol.

Beverages you may consume while on the GM diet :

1. Water (flavored with lemon/lime if desired).
2. Club Soda is OK.
3. Black Coffee. No cream or cream substitute. No sugar or sweetness.
4. Black Tea = Herb or Leaf.
5. Absolutely nothing else except the fruit juices which are part of day seven. No fruit juices before day seven.

DAY ONE
All fruits except bananas. Your first day will consists of all fruits you want. It is suggested you consume lost of watermelon and cantaloupe. If you limit your fruit consumption to melons, your chances of losing three lbs. on first day are very good.

DAY TWO
All vegetables. You are encouraged to eat until you are stuffed with all the new and cooked vegetables of your choice. There is no limit on the account or type. Avoid oil and coconut while cooking vegetables. Have large boiled potato for breakfast.

DAY THREE
Any mixture of fruits and vegetables of your choice. Any amount, any quantity. No bananas yet and no potatoes today.

DAY FOUR
Bananas and milk. Today you will eat as many as eight bananas and drink three glasses of milk. You can also have 1 bowl of vegetable soup.

DAY FIVE
Today is feast day. You will eat beef and tomatoes. Eat two 10 oz. portions of lean beef. Hamburger is OK. Combine this with six whole tomatoes. On day five you must increase your water intake by one quart. This is to cleanse your system of the uric acid you will be producing.

DAY SIX
Beef and vegetables. Today you may eat an unlimited amount of beef and vegetables. Eat to your heart’s content.

DAY SEVEN
Today your food intake will consist of 1 cup rice, fruit juice and the vegetables you care to consume. Tomorrow   morning you will be 10 – 17 pounds lighter than 1 week ago.

You have your system under control now and it will thank you for all the purging and cleansing you just gave it. Even more than a diet program it is good to follow the GM diet once in a while to clean your digestive system and remove toxic substances that have accumulated in the system.

Additional Comments about the GM diet

The most important element of the GM diet is the 10 tall glasses of water a day. You can also flavor the water will some lemon to make the drink easier. While on the program, take only black coffee and never more than one teaspoon of oil. Preferably do not use oil because the high calorific content. No fruit juices before day seven.

If you desire further weight loss, repeat the GM diet again. Repeat the GM diet as often as you like, however, it is suggested that you rest for three days before every repetition.

If you decide to repeat the GM diet, it is suggested that you are allowed two glasses of white wine in addition to the instructions on the program. You may substitute champagne for white wine. Under no circumstances are you to drink any other alcoholic beverages with the exception of beer which is allowed. Any liquor (bourbon,vodka, rum) is forbidden. Cream drinks are especially forbidden. You may have an occasional cordial such as creme de menthe or schnapps, but you must always limit yourself to two drinks. If you wine, drink only wine that day. If you have beer, drink only beer that day, etc. Alcohol adds empty calories to your diet. However, after the first week it will help your digestion and settle your stomach.

Here is what happens to you body while you are on this program and how and why it works:

Day 1: You are preparing your system for the upcoming program. Your only source of nutrition is fresh fruits. Fruits are nature’s perfect food. They provide everything you can possibly want to sustain life except total balance and variety.

Day 2: Starts with a fix complex carbohydrates in the form of a boiled potato. This is taken in the form of a boiled potato and taken in the morning to provide energy and balance. The rest of the day too consists of vegetables which are virtually calories free and provide essential nutrients and fiber.

Day 3: Eliminates the potato because you get your carbohydrates from fruits. Your system is now prepared to start burning excess pounds. You will have cravings, which should start to diminish by day four.

Day 4: Bananas and milk. You are in for a surprise. You probably will not be able to eat all the bananas allowed. But they are there fore the potassium you have lost and the sodium you may have missed the last three days. You will notice a definite loss of desire for sweets and you will be surprised at how easy this day will go.

Day 5: Beef and tomatoes. The beef is for iron and proteins, the tomatoes are for digestion and fibre. Lots and lots of water purifies your system. You should notice colourless urine today. Your allowance calls for the equivalent of five “quarter ponders”. Do not feel you have to eat all this beef. You must eat the six tomatoes.

Day 6: It is similar to five. is similar to day five. Iron and proteins from beef, vitamins and fiber from vegetables. By now your system is in a total weight loss inclination. There should be a noticeable difference in the way you look today, compared to day one.

Day 7: You may celebrate with champagne. You may also have white wine instead of champagne, but in all practical programs, and in all surveys done to measure the success of the program, General Motors employees have always preferred champagne to white wine.

GM Diet Wonder Soup

The GM Diet (General Motors Diet): Does It Work?
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Ingredients

  • 28 oz water
  • 6 large onions
  • 2 green peppers
  • 3 whole tomatoes (fresh or canned)
  • 1 cabbage
  • 1 bunch celery
  • 4 Envelopes Lipton Onion Soup Mix
  • Herbs and seasoning as desired

Instructions

  1. Cut up all of the veggies and add it to the boiling water. Season with the soup and herbs.
  2. Let cook until the veggies are tender, about 30 minutes.
Recipe Type: Sandwiches, Soups, & Salads

Notes

I used WAY more water than the 28 ounces called for in the recipe. I also read several variations of this recipe that allows you to use any veggies that you would like in this soup.

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You can take any amount of General Motors wonder soup on any day. The following soup is intended as a supplement to your diet. It can be eaten any time of the day in virtually unlimited quantities.

What do you think of the GM diet? Would you be willing to give it a try for 7 days?
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