BlogHer’11 Recap

Okay here’s the deal…I am still not ready to write about BlogHer because I’m still overwhelmed. Truth be told, I may NEVER be ready to write about it. It was everything: fun, exciting, crazy, drama, what I thought it would be, nothing like I thought it would be, happiness, shock, and so much more.

This is gonna be long, but since I didn’t post yesterday, I figure that’s okay 🙂

So because I’m having a hard time getting it out of my head and onto paper, here’s what I learned and observed over the weekend:

Nowhere can you go stand with a group of women all on their phones, computers, iPads while they are talking to you, and you are not at all offended.

Shoes matter. Those cute heels that are “so comfortable” but that you haven’t worn in forever? They are not comfortable, trust me. And if you MUST wear heels? At least be smart like Poppy from Funny or Snot and wear your heels the last night you are there, not the damn first night!

People will disappoint you. Not all of them, but some. They will not live up to the person that you made them out to be in your head. They will not run to hug you as fast as you run to hug them. They will not know who you are even though you talk everyday.

Everybody goes to BlogHer with a different agenda. Word to the wise, everybody goes to BlogHer for different reasons. I wanted to try to meet as many people/brands/contacts as I could during the day and saw the evenings as the time to hang out with friends. If you are going with friends you are close to, make sure that they understand why you are going so that everybody is on the same page.

I didn’t attend one session, but made some amazing contacts. But I had friends that went to some sessions and didn’t make as many contacts as they had hoped. All of us lived and learned from what we chose to do.

You will drink too much, eat not enough and sleep too little. I think from the pics you will see all the alcohol involved with the parties. I lived on breakfast, lunch, and appetizers for food. And as for sleep, I stayed up later than I have in I don’t know how long. As Nichole from in these small moments (and one of my roomies!) said “What were we thinking? We are not 20 anymore”.

I need to vlog because a lot of people take videos. Everywhere I went people wanted to shoot videos. I do not do cameras very well, let alone video cameras. There will probably be some vlogging in my future.

Most people do not look like their avis. I can’t tell you how many people walked up to me and said “Hi I’m so-and-so” and I thought to myself “REALLY? You look NOTHING like your avi!” I actually put my Twitter avi in my badge so people would (hopefully) recognize me. I think that my avi is a pretty accurate representation of what I look like, and most people I asked agreed.

People use your avi as a way to look for you/find you/identify you. So if you are going to a conference, you might want to use a picture from the last year or so…not your high school grad pic.

There’s too much to do and see and not enough time to do it. I didn’t meet everybody I wanted, I didn’t get to spend enough time with everybody I wanted, and I didn’t have any down time. I went to BlogHer to work and grow my personal brand, but I think next year, I’ll go to just hang out and get to know my friends more.

Learn to schmooze. I hate schmoozing and I’m not good at it. I am shy, and can’t easily talk to people I don’t know. I’m awkward. I really need to learn to schmooze.

I still need a damn elevator pitch. I read this everywhere and still don’t have one. Note to self: get an elevator pitch.

Yes, there were people I didn’t recognize/have any idea who they were…though they clearly knew me. And I didn’t blow them off, I talked to them. I will NEVER be that blogger that blows people off when they put themselves out there and are excited to meet me.

You will be someone’s blog idol…whether you know it or not. I cannot tell you who excited I was to learn that I was on the list as a “must meet” for Jenny from Karma (continued…). Her words literally made me realize that what I am doing to help other bloggers is important. We chatted on Twitter before, but now we are friends.

You never know who you are talking to. This one I learned at Evo. I talked to a PR person at Evo who literally changed my blogging goals. You never know who you are talking to, so make sure that you are respectful to everybody. They might end up helping you more than you think possible.

Know your roommates. I loved mine…Nichole from in these small moments, Katie from Sluiter Nation, and Tonya for Letters for Lucas. Secrets will be whispered, gossip will be shared, and things will be said that you hope never is uttered again to another soul. Know, like, and trust your roommates. Some of my favorite memories were from the time we spent together in our room.

SO many people made my BlogHer experience incredible…they know who they are even if they aren’t listed here. I didn’t want to list a bunch of people because I knew I would forget somebody incredible. So to all of my friends, old and new, much love!



One of my very best blog friends @AKludgyMom and I


Me, @ITSMoments, and @InPursuit_Of


Me, @letters4lucas, @funnyorsnot


@shesuggests, Me, and Flat @in_mandyland

Yuliya, Me, and Flat Mandy

@mommyneedsvaca, @littlehenhouse, Me, @surferwife


@ITSMoments, @mommy_pants, Me, and @letters4lucas


Me, @letters4lucas,@MadWomanDiary


Me, @mommyneedsvaca, @buriedwithkids


Me and @ChiMomWriter


@AKludgyMom, @MTDLBlog, me


Me, @MTDLBlog, @sellabitmum


Me and @ITSMoments...Twitter Twins and Friends Forever



Our first time meeting

So that’s what I have to say about BlogHer. If you want to see what others have to say, you can read all about it  or link up your BlogHer post, here!


  1. I am very shy too and so not good at schmoozing. And, I have no idea what an elevator pitch is. It looks like you have a lot of fun though.
  2. You are right on the money with all of the above. I thought the most magical of times were the ones that I was talking at length with someone, thinking I really MUST follow them... then realizing I had been following them for a year and I already loved them online. What fun.
  3. LOVE all the pictures!!! And I agree about loving your roommates! I hope I didn't blow anyone off. I was super overwhelmed and also didn't recognize some people. We need to find more time to chat!
  4. You know when I made my best contacts? In line at Starbucks and at a breakfast and right after running the 5K. You have to be open to talk to people everywhere - not just in expo halls or at parties - because you just never know. I think everyone has different goals and you are exactly right - you should know what you want to do before going. And I think it's awesome you got out of BlogHer what you wanted!! Also, it was so great to see you again and I think you are more gorgeous in person than in your avi. xo
  5. Love this racap and I hope there is a Blogher in my future. I am so glad we met at EVO. :)
  6. Awesome! I may just link to your post, because mine? Isn't happening yet and it's already Friday!! Loved, LOVED meeting you and wish I had more pics. I took none. That was a fail.
  7. I can't believe I didn't see all of your wardrobe changes.
  8. Is the first picture taken at CheapSally?!? I was there too!! :-)
  9. Blog conferences can be so overwhelming, can't they? You look fabulous! We WILL get to meet IRL soon. And I will be squee-ing and throwing myself at you when we do.
  10. So happy I was able to meet you and say hi at the McD's luncheon!
  11. Ditto the elevator pitch. But I ate too much, slept too much and didn't have nearly enough to drink. Next time more dancing and uncomfortable shoes for me!
  12. You're so right - very few people actually look like their avis.
  13. Sounds like you had a great time. I should look into something like that since I seem to have a hart time getting followers. I think I am pretty funny and the adventures of my 19 month old twin boys are never dull.
  14. I'm so glad you had a great time! You all are looking hawt!! I'm not sure if I would ever go to one or not, but I can imagine they are overwhelming. I'm also kind of shy so yeah, it would be pretty uncomfortable!
  15. So jealous that you are meeting so many of your bloggy friends. But I can only imagine how overwhelming it would be. And fantastic!
  16. I love going to conference but I get overwhelmed easily and need to step back for a while. I hate this about myself. Also, I regret not spend more time with you. Next year for sure.
  17. Nice recap. You're adorable. And for the record, you would have been on my "must meet" list. If I had gone. SIGH.
  18. I like this. A lot! I also love all the photos of us together. So happy (and proud) to call you my friend. xoxo
  19. You know what? I saw you, and got too shy, and didn't introduce myself. Which is silly, I know, but...there you have it.
  20. OK, I love this recap....but I don't love that we were SO LAME and don't have any pics together!! And we hugged! And drank wine. Duh.
  21. I think this is the first recap I've read that truly made me feel sad that I wasn't there. You hung out with so many of my bloggy friends and you all look like you had so much fun!!! Love the pics! And you totally look like you're grabbing Nichole's boob in that one pic. Just sayin'. But it's OK if you were - Nichole's hot. I'd probably grab her boob too. (Just kidding, Nichole. I won't molest/fondle you if we ever meet. Swearsies.)
  22. I saw you for about four and a half seconds total, and yet I really feel like I know you...maybe our souls know each other from a past life? Great tip on knowing what your goals are and communicating them to the people you care about, way less hurt feelings that way!
  23. I love this recap! I am soaking in everything I can read about BlogHer in anticipation of attending a conference this year. I really appreciate that you made a point to set specific goals for the conference and to realize that everyone's goals are different. (Also, obviously I have never met you, but your avi must be pretty representative of your cute self, because I knew immediately who you were when I saw you in someone else's pictures!)
  24. My sweet friend: Like I said (over and over again) last weekend, your words of blogging wisdom changed everything for me. I fully expect our friendship to be equally life-changing. Knowing you, online and now (YAY!) in person is such a privilege. And I'm beyond thrilled to have made this recap post, btw. You're an inspiration to a lot of people. I'm quite certain I'm not the only one who has learned SO much from you (maybe just the only one crazy enough to hunt you down and tell you in person!) xoxoxoxoxoxo PS. How is there no picture of us? Must. Fix. Immediately.
  25. Great recap! I loved meeting you & glad you grabbed those photos I took. You're beautiful! I loved that white sparkly tank if I didn't tell you that in San Diego!
  26. Glad to hear you had such a great time. I have a really bad habit of people coming up to me and saying "Hey Nolie, so glad to finally meet you" when I go to a conference. Yet I am the worst at now knowing who they are. I need to get better with that slightly awkward moment. I know that at my first conference I lost many great moments because I felt awkward or uncomfortable not knowing who someone was or what to say to them. Can't wait to meet you next year. You have a year to learn to recognize me and for me to recognize you.
  27. It must have been an awesome experience. I can only hope that South Africa has something like that one day. It would be fabulous to meet people. I think it would be a great idea to host an international event. That would truly be wonderful. Hey, one can dream! :) Was wonderful reading about your experience and judging by the pics, everyone had a great time.
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  29. I too am awful at schmoozing. If I ever make it to blogher I hope to have learned this skill by then. I agree with the avatar comment having seen peoples photos I definitely did a few wow that's so and so! Wouldn't have thought!
  30. Awww....I made it on your post! I have been terrible about seeing everyone's Blogher recaps! It was such a pleasure to meet you at the sure my roomies from this year are going next year, so if you need one, I already reserved a room. (Nerd alert!) :-)


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