Archives for November 2013

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hope you enjoy your Turkey Day (and the face-to-face conversations!)


Cool Stuff I Found This Week #2 (Thank You Social Media)

So last week, I wrote a post titled Cool Stuff I Found This Week, highlighting all of the – you guessed it – cool stuff I found on social media throughout the week. And then I found more. So I present to you….More Cool Stuff.

Last week, I showed you the coolest commercial ever, featuring Jean Claude Van Damme in a Volvo commercial. One of the hottest guys around, Channing Tatum, spoofed the commercial and it’s awesome! But seriously…go look at my Cool Stuff I Found This Week post from last week and watch Van Damme’s commercial first, or else you won’t appreciate this is much.

I also told you last week that I’m totally obsessed right now with Lorde’s “Royals” song. And I shared an amazing cover of it. And then I found another cover – Cam Anthony, a 12 year old that can SING.

Go ahead and watch it another 150 times. I have.

Then this guy, a well known prankster I guess, tries to prank his girlfriend. Results are worth watching!

Last one, I promise. This video is of a bunch of club goers who thought they were posing for photos, but they were actually being videoed. It’s hilarious!

Until next time I find cool stuff….

Helping Raise Awareness for the A21 Campaign To Stop Human Trafficking

The A21 Campaign is an organization that rescues children from human trafficking. The average age of trafficking victims is 12 years old. Help stop this.

Have you ever heard of the A21 Campaign? I never had until I was sitting in church a couple of weeks ago. Don’t worry…this is NOT a post about religion! I don’t think I’ve ever talked about my religious beliefs here, but I was born Catholic and just within the last few months started attending a Christian church that I love (so do the kids.) Anyways, my church is involved in The Christmas Conspiracy, which helps people focus on giving (time, money, or like me, words) instead of receiving. Several organizations will receive recognition and hopefully lots of money will be given to help those less fortunate around the world. One of them is the A21 Campaign.

So what is the A21 Campaign? It’s an organization that rescues children from human trafficking.

The A21 Campaign is an organization that rescues children from human trafficking. The average age of trafficking victims is 12 years old. Help stop this.

Thousands of children are victimized and trafficked through the illegal slave trade every year. Sex trafficking is the fastest growing criminal industry in the world. Not just in the US, people…IN THE WORLD. False promises fueled out of the desperation of poverty leaves many children vulnerable to exploitation through the human trafficking industry. The A21 Campaign rescues children in the illegal sex trade. 

This is the video we watched about A21 Campaign. It’s not easy to watch, and it made me cry. But this is real life. This is what children all over the world are living every single day. Ignoring the reality will not make it go away.

Horrible, right? But it made such an impact on me that I knew I had to write about the A21 Campaign. I don’t have a lot of money, and I don’t know how else to help except to spread the word about the amazing work that they are doing.

The A21 Campaign is an organization that rescues children from human trafficking. The average age of trafficking victims is 12 years old. Help stop this.

How We Can Help the A21 Campaign

So how can we help? Share this post. Help people understand that human trafficking is going on, and that kids are the hottest commodity. Follow A21 Campaign on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. Spread the word about the good they are doing.

I know that I can afford to give a dollar towards helping even one child get rescued, and I bet you can too. Just think about it, if we all gave one dollar, and asked our friends to give one dollar, thousands and thousands of dollars could be raised to help save children!

A21 Campaign also has a list of 21 ways to get involved. I hope you will check them out.

Disclaimer: Nobody at church asked me to write about this and I’m in no way being compensated for this. I haven’t been able to stop thinking A21 Campaign since learning about it. And while I may not be able to donate a ton of money, I can use my voice and help spread the word.

What To Expect When You Are Struggling With Infertility: Shame

If you’ve been reading Mommy of a Monster for any length of time, you know I’m pretty much an open book. There’s not a whole lot that I don’t talk about…it’s the same as when you meet me in real life. One thing I’ve talked about a lot often on my blog is our 6-year struggle with infertility before we finally used fertility treatments like IUI and IVF to get pregnant. We were lucky. Others are not so lucky.

I’ve been open about how infertility makes a woman feel..I talked about infertility jealousy at Scary Mommy’s and how we used to joke about “we just don’t do it right.” I have talked about how we didn’t want to “buy a baby” which is why we waited so long to try fertility treatments.

But things I have never written about are the feelings of shame, embarrassment, and guilt that accompany infertility.


I didn’t know anybody who was dealing with the same issues when I was going through the hurt and month-after-month heartache of not being able to conceive. I come from a long line of very Fertile Myrtle’s, and it never occurred to me that I might not get pregnant after just a few months of trying.

I talked to lots and lots and lots of doctors and nurses who sympathized with our situation, but not one of them ever mentioned to me that I might feel like less of a woman for not being able to do what my body was designed to do: bear children. None of them told me that feeling ashamed and guilty was part of the process…normal.

Having people ask questions became embarrassing to answer. The looks of sadness and pity when I explained our situation became unbearable.

Talking About Infertility Shame At

When you are struggling with infertility, lots of people tell you about lots of things. The one thing nobody talks about is the shame that goes with it.

When asked me to guest post, I immediately thought of writing about infertility shame to let others who are currently dealing with infertility know what to expect. Because I wish someone would have told me.

After finally conceiving, I made the decision to openly discuss infertility with anybody who wanted to hear about it or was willing to listen. Because knowledge is power. And I think when you know what to expect – especially the bad stuff – it makes it somewhat easier to deal with.

Now I talk to friends and friends of friends about it. Sometimes they are dealing with infertility or someone close to them is. Either way, knowing the process and understanding the different terms and procedures helps.

I have friends currently going through infertility and even secondary infertility (meaning they were able to have a child/children and then couldn’t conceive again) who know what I am talking about. It is for them that I shared my words.

So head over to and read my words if you are so inclined. And I urge you to read and share my post about infertility shame if you or anybody that you know has or is dealing with infertility. Infertility is still somewhat of a taboo subject to talk about , and I want you to help me change that.

Cool Stuff I Found This Week (Thank You Social Media)

I found a bunch of cool stuff this week on Facebook, at the grocery store, and even via something like a press release. So I thought I’d share here for you to enjoy, but also so that I would always be able to find it (LOL!)

I found this great sign at the grocery store of all places. I think the message is spot on, and will be hanging it in my office as a reminder that actions speak louder than words. It’s a good reminder for me and the kids.


Then I found this horrific story that somebody shared on Facebook about a couple who was found guilty of murdering their adopted daughter after using techniques suggested in the book called “To Train Up A Child” written by “Christians” Michael and Debi Pearl. (The Pearls need a copy of the sign I just showed y’all.)


Michael Pearl tells one mother on his website, “I could break his anger in two days. He would be too scared to get angry. On the third day he would draw into a quiet shell and obey.” That’s the kind of advice they dole out throughout the book. Sickening.

40,000 people signed a petition to get to quit selling the book. I wish I could’ve signed it. There’s no need for books to be sold on how to abuse your children.

I’m sharing the article because it’s worth the read. And Hana, the girl who was murdered, deserves to have her story told.

Then I found this, and it was too good not to share. Hump Day will never be the same!


If you are totally in love with the song “Royals” by Lorde right now, you have to watch this video. If you have no idea what the song is, still watch the video. These girls’ voices are simply amazing. I get the chills every time I watch it.

I could listen to it every day, all day.

Then Gigi from Kludgy Mom shared this Volvo commercial on Facebook. It’s quite possibly the coolest commercial EVER.

How does he not lose his cool, freak out, and fall? That’s what would’ve happened if I tried that. You know, after I learned how to do the splits.

Another friend shared this one on Facebook. Why can’t stuff like this happen to me when I’m out and about? How cool would this be to see!?

Last but not least, I had a PR rep email me something like a press release for a new app that I am totally digging right now.


 Here was her spiel:

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I wanted to let you and your readers know about a free app for the iPhone or iPad called CamMe, which allows you to take a selfie without the outstretched arm in the pic or a group photo simply by gesturing to the camera from a distance – perfect for taking Thanksgiving family photos without leaving someone out of the picture!

All you have to do is place the iPhone or iPad in front of you (up to 22 feet!), hold up your hand and then make a fist to let CamMe know you’re ready to take the shot. The app will begin counting down and then take the picture.

The app was featured in InStyle magazine and has had over 600,000 downloads.

Now I usually don’t share – or even check out – this kind of stuff when I get it. But I decided to check it out and then downloaded it. This app is COOL! I’m sharing it because I’ve already told a bunch of people about it and I don’t want you to miss it. The kids are having fun with it too.

See? If I didn’t spend so much time on social media I would’ve missed all of this cool stuff! What cool stuff did you find this week on social media?