I FEEL LIKE ALL I DO IS YELL ALL DAY LONG.
This might be a slight exaggeration…I guess I usually don’t start yelling until 9:30 or 10:00 in the morning, with a short reprieve when Ethan is at school from 11:00 to 3:00. But when he gets home from school and the kids are all together again? ALL.I.DO.IS.YELL.
“KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF YOUR SISTERS!”
“DON’T TOUCH HIM/HER!”
“LILA STOP CRYING YOU WERE FIGHTING WITH ETHAN, TOO!”
“ETHAN HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU TO LEAVE THEM ALONE! AM I SPEAKING A FOREIGN LANGUAGE? WHAT PART OF “KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF” DON’T YOU UNDERSTAND?”
“MIA IF YOU DO THAT AGAIN YOU ARE GOING TO YOUR ROOM.”
“DO YOU GUYS HEAR ME? WHY AREN’T YOU LISTENING TO ME? YOU ARE TOTALLY IGNORING ME! KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF EACH OTHER!”
“HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU NO RUNNING IN THE HOUSE!”
“I AM GOING TO THROW ALL OF THESE TOYS AWAY IF YOU DON’T PICK THEM UP NOW”
“STOP YELLING AND SCREAMING!”
“KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF EACH OTHER!!!”
The list just goes on and on. I am frustrated.
I am so tired of yelling. It doesn’t work. But I don’t know what else to do. You know what it makes me feel like? Like I don’t know what I’m doing and that I’m a terrible mom. It also makes me feel like maybe I’m not cut out for this whole parenting thing. I don’t feel like being a mom when all I do is yell.
Don’t get me wrong…I know I’m not the only mom out there to feel this way, but I have to admit, it’s a really shitty feeling.
I rarely spank, taking toys away doesn’t work, going to their rooms is a temporary time out for all of us, but doesn’t change behavior…I don’t know what else to do. I feel horrible because when the kids grow up and look back, I feel like all they will remember is me yelling all the time. I am at a loss.
So I am asking, begging really, for advice. Your tried and true tricks that really work. Because I can’t keep yelling like this all the time. I know it’s horrible (and ineffective) parenting…please help!
If you can relate, make sure to read through the comments below for some fantastic advice from other moms! Thank you to everybody who shared!
Follow Up: After getting such great advice from you all, I wrote a follow up post titled How To Stop Yelling At Your Kids: Tips To Help You Maintain Your Sanity.