Archives for April 2011

Monster Likes #16

Photobucket

Every Saturday, it’s Monster Likes time! I list my favorite selection of posts I found throughout bloggy land over the past week.

If one of your posts is listed below and you want the badge, just shoot me an email or leave me a comment and I’ll send you the badge to put on your post!

And now on to the good stuff….

Over at Modern Day Moms, they shared a super easy way to use bell pepper seeds from a purchased bell pepper to grow your own. It never even occurred to me to do this, but it makes perfect sense. I had mine drying out all week, and I am planting them this weekend!

Tonya from Letters for Lucas guest posted over at Four Plus an Angel. Her words, while full of emotion and grief, are beautiful. If you’ve ever experienced loss in your life, you must read this post.

And Tonya blew me away with another post on her own blog! It’s all about why being a mom is awesome, and I even bookmarked the page for when I need to remind myself how lucky I am to be a mom. So head over to Letters for Lucas and check it out!

Ilana over at Mommy Shorts wrote a post like a newspaper article. It’s titled Baby Kills iPhone; Mom Survives and it is HILARIOUS!

Another super funny post, and the #1 that I don’t vlog, is a vlog by Booyah’s Momma at According to Chip and Bobo. If I ever get the balls to do a vlog, I’m 100% sure it would come out exactly like this!

And here’s how a vlog should be done! Tracy is hilarious and her comedic timing is incredible. Please Tracy, PLEASE do more vlogging!! Check out how she got her blog’s title Sellabit Mum.

And I’m so excited for my friend Jessica from Four Plus an Angel because she has a piece that she wrote about her daughter’s journey through autism shared on Parents.com! Congrats again, Jessica!

Last week, I wrote a post asking everybody: what’s your favorite post that you’ve ever written. I’m glad I did because I came across some posts that I hadn’t read before that I now love!

Shell from Things I Can’t Say recently shared a post with me that she wrote back in November 2009. It’s about a beautiful memory, and how she came to have the old nickname “Emmy” way back when.

MommaKiss wrote this beauty back in March 2008…it’s titled “Mommy Farted”…need I say more? If you’ve never read MommaKiss before, this is exactly why you should be!

And…in case you missed it yesterday, I had a special guest poster who announced my new feature: The Bidness. The twins will be taking over my blog once a week, and you’ll get to ask them any questions you want!

Psst! See that link over in my sidebar to Flirty Aprons? Wouldn’t that cute little apron make a fantastic Mother’s Day gift? I think so, too. You can get 40% off the Marilyn Style Aprons, while supplies last, by using Code Marilyn40 or 20% off all aprons with code 20M2011 through 5/10/2011!

Introducing My New Feature: The Bidness

Have I ever told you that the twins have a groupie? I know, you think I’m just trying to be funny, but I’m absolutely serious. And this is no ordinary groupie…this is the ultimate groupie, and you all know who she is!

Any guesses?

Okay, I’ll give you a hint:

That’s right! The Empress from Good Day, Regular People! The Empress fell in love with the girls long ago – but her absolute favorite thing about them is when they do naughty things that make me want to pull my hair out…I think she really thinks they’re still cute.

Because she loves those little monsters/tyrants/sweethearts so much, I asked her to tell you about the newest Mommy of a Monster feature.

So without further adieu, I gave you the Empress, who is going to introduce The Bidness…my, ahem, I mean the girls’ new feature!

————–

Her eyelashes slowly flutter open as she is awakened by the bright chirping of the birds that have made their home in the tree just outside of her sheer draped french windows.

She smiles as she rolls over onto her side, and sees her husband, still asleep and still handsome after ten years of an idyllic marriage.

Yawning, she grins at the thought of what her day holds ahead: an early Pilates class with her best and dearest friends, followed by a massage at the club’s spa. Without a doubt, the morning will be celebrated with mimosas and the fresh fruit filled crepes their club is known for.

::RIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIP::

“MOMMY!! Please wake up! OPEN THE DOOR!”

:POUND POUND POUND:

“Mommy! HELP! The twins are dumping out ALL the flour and pulling out the mixer because they say they want pancakes. MOMMY! PLEASE! OPEN THIS DOOR! HURRY!”

:POUND POUND POUND:

Silent swears fill her head as she realizes–once again–it had all been a dream. A dream. Even the handsome husband whose head had been on the pillow next to hers–that lucky dog was already at work. He called it work. HA! THAT made her laugh out loud.

No longer able to deny reality, she threw back the covers, revealing the T shirt and yoga pants she had passed out in the night before. When had she last been able to simply go to bed, she wondered, why was it always passing out like she had just been hit in the head with a 2×4.

She caught herself as she almost tripped down the stairs in her haste to get to the kitchen as quickly as physics allowed. She had learned long ago that seconds counted in staving off clean up time where the twins were involved. Visions, and not holy ones, filled her head, of what she might find once she turned the corner after that last bottom step.

No matter how far she reached into her mind, the twins always did one better.

And this morning’s early sight was no exception.

Welcome to a day in the life with Ms.L and Ms. M. And poor Tater, who will grow up to pen such a memoir, mark my words.

Life with the girls. Life with the home of The Bidness.

I have been asking and begging and harassing and driving Natalie nuts to PLEASE have a weekly feature of what these girls are up to. I get a huge kick out of them. I think it’s the safety in numbers, it’s the twin double trouble, it’s the hilarity of watching it happen to someone else, it’s the joy and the moments of hijinks that I love. “I’ll take a picture, a snippet, a captioned photo, a short story…anything…. ” I told her, “I just have to get my girls on a regular basis.”

Natalie is making my bloggy dreams come true: with the debut of a weekly dose of The Bidness.

I am so dang happy.

Welcome to your own regular feature, Ms.L and Ms. M. You have made this old bag very, very happy. It’s always so much fun to laugh, and watch, because it’s happening to someone else. Seriously, you girls make my day.

Happy to have you here!

And, Nat? I can laugh because it’s happening to you and not me.

————-

Sigh. I’m glad that you get such a kick out of them, Empress!

The girls will be posting for the first time next Friday. They’re already very excited about it. The Empress already has a question she wants the girls to answer: “How do you decide what to do that will make their mom lose her mind that day?”

They’ll be answering that question, as well as any questions you might want to ask them! If you have a question for Lila or Mia, leave it in the comment below!

In the meantime, make sure that you visit The Empress at Good Day Regular People.

And Empress? Thank you. I owe you one!

It’s NIAW And It’s Complicated…

Myth: If you just relax, you will get pregnant.

How long have you been trying?

Just quit thinking about it and you’ll get pregnant

Trying is the fun part!

Relax

It always happens when you least expect it

Go on vacation

Try charting your temperature

Have you tried putting your legs straight up against the wall after sex? It worked for my daughter/sister/daughter in law/friend/friend of a friend of a friend/husband’s-brother’s-ex wife’s-uncle’s-daughter

Quit worrying about it and it will happen

Oh! I was so fertile that I’d just think about sex and get pregnant!

How old are you? You’ve still got time…

Well, your life just isn’t complete until you have a baby together

It will happen sooner or later

It will happen when the time is right

Maybe it’s just not meant to be

Have you tried going to the chiropractor?

Are you infertile? Is your husband?

You need to pray

Have you thought about adoption?

Maybe you should see a doctor…

Yep, these are all things that people say to you after they ask why you don’t have kids. OR when you are planning on having kids. OR when you are  planning on having another kid. OR if you are even planning to have kids.

Strangers, friends and family, whether they realize it or not, can be very nosy, rude, thoughtless, and insensitive when they think they are being helpful. If you’ve ever dealt with any type of fertility issues, you know what I mean.

If you are one of the lucky couples that was blessed enough to have a baby without ever trying or after only a few months of trying, congratulations! It’s such a beautiful gift, and one that I coveted for a very long time.

This week is National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), and it’s a very important week in my life. I started blogging in March 2010, and first shared my struggles with infertility during last year’s NIAW. You can read about my unexplained infertility in these posts: We Just Don’t Do It Right – Part 1 and We Just Don’t Do It Right – Part II.

This year, I chose to join the RESOLVE (National Infertility Association) challenge of busting a myth about infertility. I chose to bust the myth “If you relax, you will get pregnant”.

It is NOT as easy as “just relaxing”…it is much more complicated than that. Did you know that infertility is a disease? It affects 1 in 8 couples of reproductive age. Some cases, like mine, have no explainable cause for not being able to get pregnant.

The fact is, the vast majority of individuals who have infertility have a medical reason, not a stress-related one. Upwards of 90% of all infertility cases are caused by physical problems. Research does show that infertility patients who learn and practice a wide variety of stress reduction techniques can have higher pregnancy rates than patients who don’t learn those techniques…you must get a proper diagnosis of what the physical problem is!

Although we were unable to conceive on our own, Jason and I were extremely lucky for two reasons: we could actually afford the treatments and the treatments worked for us successfully. Both of my pregnancies happened after fertility treatments. We were also lucky that in both cases, we got pregnant on the first try.

Some people are not so lucky. Some cannot afford treatments, some don’t seek help when they realize there is a problem, some people try many different treatments and have no success with any of them.

One of the reasons I support NIAW is because I wish I would’ve known about this week and the RESOLVE organization when we realized we were having problems getting pregnant. I felt so alone and misunderstood: my mom, aunts, and sisters were all “Fertile Myrtles” and couldn’t understand the pain and emotions that I felt.I didn’t know anybody else who was going through what I was going through.

NIAW helps reduce the stigma of infertility by bringing attention to the details, issues and costs surrounding all the ways people diagnosed with infertility can build a family.

You can visit the RESOLVE website to get a general understanding of infertility as well as help, support, and more information on infertility diagnosis, treatments, and more.

We need to talk about this and raise awareness about infertility! The more you know, the more you understand it and can offer help and support to those going through it.

If you have or are currently experiencing struggles with infertility (even if you are supporting somebody close to you that is going through it), please help me spread the word by tweeting about this post…you can use the hashtag #Bustamyth. The more people that read it the better!

Insignificant Ways People Change Our Lives

I’m sure to her it seemed insignificant. A passing piece of advice being handed down from a seasoned boss to a young employee.

To be successful, you don’t have to know everything, but you have to make sure that you surround yourself with people that do when you put them all together.

One sentence. Life changing.

Knowing that I didn’t have to learn it all, know it all. That all I needed was to surround myself with people who care about me and my well-being, but that would allow me to use my strengths, acknowledge my weaknesses, and to help me when I asked for help.

Heart of Haiti logo

And now I am paying it forward – I can change a life by purchasing Heart of Haiti products. Instead of providing one-time funding through charity, Heart of Haiti is creating opportunities for Haitian artisans to earn life-changing income for themselves, their families, and their communities.

For Mother’s Day, I plan to purchase this: Fair Winds Trading Necklaces, Set of 4 Paper Bead.

Fair Winds Trading Necklaces, Set of 4 Paper Bead

It’s a bit pricey – $150 – but you can make four gifts out of this! One for you, your mom, your mother-in-law, and your best friend…that’s only $37.50 a gift!

And you can do the same by shopping the Shop for a Better World / Heart Of Haiti collection in its entirety (including just added items for Spring) by visiting: http://bit.ly/gaalFP

Shop Between May 3rd and May 8th and Save 15% on Your Purchase!

Just use the promo code: CLEVERGIRLS

Check out all of the Heart of Haiti products – there’s something there that will suit even the toughest mother-in-law’s tastes!

But most importantly, you are helping to change the life of at least one person who is trying to better him or herself.

You can make a difference.

I was selected for this very special “CleverHaiti” opportunity by Clever Girls Collective, which endorses Blog With Integrity. All opinions are my own.

I’m Not Here Because I’m There

I can’t even begin to tell you how excited I am to be one of the ORIGINAL Sluiter Nation recruits today!

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, Katie over at Sluiter Nation has developed a plan: she is asking all of her favorite-read-’em-everyday blog friends to guest post at her place! Each Wednesday, she introduces a new blogger and then puts their button on her blog roll…it’s the only way you can get on it!

I love this idea, and I am more than honored to be over there today…so go check out my post; it’s all about the 100,556,089 questions that a three-year-old asks everyday. If you have a toddler, you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about!

So swing by Sluiter Nation to read all about it!